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I just received my first negative comment
8 years ago, June 15th 2011 No: 1 Msg: #138380  
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I was impatient and deleted the comment but I don't understand why this blog which was popular and somewhat amusing should get such a nasty remark. I am not trying to make friends, though regular users of TB have become cyber buddies, I wanted to reply but realized that this really is friendly website that exchanged views of our travels and provides great info for further travels, Has anyone else received such comments for no reason at all, I will continue to blog because it's my journal. I just don't understand this mentality, Incidentally the comment was anonymous.I tend to research my blogs and rarely use names, I just don't get it...........Is this what they call haters.The blog that received this comment was http://www.travelblog.org/South-America/Peru/Trujillo/blog-618901.html in this I don't really see anything offensive............Ok lets face it I am blog sensitive but I was confused about this comment. What about you folks, Have you had unfair or even fair comments to your blogs, Damn it I wish I would have replied with something witty, Happy trails
[Edited: 2011 Jun 15 01:24 - zuzuzu72:150640 ]

[Edited: 2011 Jun 15 01:27 - zuzuzu72:150640 ]

[Edited: 2011 Jun 15 01:30 - zuzuzu72:150640 ]
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8 years ago, June 15th 2011 No: 2 Msg: #138383  
You did the right thing, you deleted the comment, and that's what it deserves.

See it this way, some people are not happy of other happiness, simple jaleousy. With today internet, it's so easy to do an anonymous comment...free...not tracing. You prove a point when you receive those, you try to get a life, the commenter doesn't.

I've received few of them over the last 4 years. But this tends to happen less than once a year, and after checking with other TB members, that's actually close to nothing.

Keep blogging, keep ignoring the idiots... Reply to this

8 years ago, June 15th 2011 No: 3 Msg: #138384  
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Thanks Pierre-Alexandre, I jut couldn't understand why it was directed to a blog that was frivolous and somewhat light hearted. Lesson learned I will laugh it off as have my friends who read the comment (they are here with me). The good people out there outnumber the haters, Thanks for your lovely reply and have the happiest of travels. Reply to this

8 years ago, June 15th 2011 No: 4 Msg: #138386  
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You're on a wonderful trip, you are writing a fantastic blog and sharing it with the world. Good on you.....There will always be a critic - and in this case a coward if they choose to hide behind being anonymous.Deleting the comment was the best action -don't let someone spoil what is obviously giving you and others such pleasure. Look forward to reading more of your adventures. Reply to this

8 years ago, June 15th 2011 No: 5 Msg: #138388  
Don't allow the negative element in the world to rain on your parade. You publish great blogs and we enjoy them. Many of us follow you all the time. Delete them and go on. Do not allow them to steal a moment of your joy. Many of us have recommended your blog and we would not do that if we were not fans and enjoying your work. Continue on with your head held high.

I believe in karma and it will come back to them!
[Edited: 2011 Jun 15 02:55 - D MJ Binkley:42569 ]
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8 years ago, June 15th 2011 No: 6 Msg: #138392  
Don't let it deter you, I receive a few a these comments over the years, and some I publish. There was one particularly personal comment which I responded with a rant of my own - and asked the original writer to provide additional information to elaborate on his concerns - but this never appeared. Some have pointed out factual errors in my blogs, and these are always corrected and acknowledged.

However, the obviously vexatious or offensive ones are deleted. Admittedly, the first time one of these appeared, it was a bit off-putting, so can understand your feelings.

In the end, you write the blog for yourself as a creative outlet or for your memories, and for those friends, families and followers who read your stories. It is their opinions that are more valuable than an unknown person who negatively criticises you for no apparent reason.

Keep travelling and blogging - many people do enjoy and appreciate your efforts.
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8 years ago, June 15th 2011 No: 7 Msg: #138404  
We got one once that said "God save your Queen, you people are assholes". I deleted it in initial anger but now looking back I wish I'd kept it as it was so bizarre.

I think some people just trawl the net looking for places to vent their own personal problems. Or just to be plain rude. Just ignore them. Reply to this

8 years ago, June 15th 2011 No: 8 Msg: #138422  

Ok lets face it I am blog sensitive but I was confused about this comment.


Try to believe that it is not personal. Yes, I know it was aimed at you and your blog, but I still think it is just somebody taking out their negative feelings on people on the internet.

And, you are not alone. There are threads almost exactly like this one a couple of times per year.

Is this what they call haters.


Yes, it is.

I don't really see anything offensive............


And, there likely isnt anything offensive there.

I wanted to reply


Only respond, if you can keep your response emotionally neutral. Otherwise, do as you are doing now, and we will reassure you that you are at least not alone. Everybody receives these comments, and if they didnt yet, they likely will in the future. Negativity is a disease on the internet. Yes, TravelBlog is a friendly site, but that does not mean that we are not visited by the weirdos. We do apply vigilent and heavy moderating though, to keep the site as decent as we possibly can.

Damn it I wish I would have replied with something witty,


There will likey be a next time, so you will get the opportunity. 😉

We got one once that said "God save your Queen, you people are assholes". I deleted it in initial anger but now looking back I wish I'd kept it as it was so bizarre.


Id say deleting those types is certainly the right thing to do, because they express prejudice against a whole group of people. Same with comments with rascist, sexist, anti semetism... in them. I dont think responsing to these types of comments in any way is the right thing to do.

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8 years ago, June 15th 2011 No: 9 Msg: #138454  
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Delete and smile and go on your way and keep providing those of us who love your blogs with a great laugh...

Sometimes I think people spend too much time navel gazing about travelling and should just bloody enjoy it!

PS love the God Save your Queen comment lol. Reply to this

8 years ago, June 15th 2011 No: 10 Msg: #138460  


I love Cindy's navel gazing.



My personal belief is that these people are jealous of you because you are out seeing the world and they are sitting on the couch sending you nasty comments. MJ Reply to this

8 years ago, June 16th 2011 No: 11 Msg: #138503  
Zuzuzu72,

Your blog is always a pleasure to read. Your photos are fab. Don't let it get you down, wind you up or take it personally. I agree with Cindy. It'll be a case of the green eyed monster.

Happy Travelling
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8 years ago, June 16th 2011 No: 12 Msg: #138543  
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Cheers everyone Reply to this

8 years ago, June 20th 2011 No: 13 Msg: #138797  
I haven't had too many offensive comments, those that I have had I delete. If, however, the criticism is backed up by reason, I allow them.

My blogs that have received the most are those from India, all by Indians. I absolutely love India, and I think that bthis comes accros in my blogs. However I don't always shy asway from telling things as they are. It is this criticism of their country, although normally couched in humou, that they take offense with. These two blogs have a couple of interesting commentsThat sinking feeling and Magic and frustration.
[Edited: 2011 Jun 20 12:51 - scottandanny:54454 ]
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7 years ago, July 6th 2011 No: 14 Msg: #139760  
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Hi Zuzuzu 72,

As everyone has said, do not take it to heart, we feel we have shard our hearts and soul on our blogs, only to have this happen every know and again, and it does rock your world.

Just smile inside and enjoy your amazing adventure.

As Mel said, be neutral and just thank them for their comment and ingore it.

Beleive me, you will get far more positive comments than negative, and that is what drives you on.

Have a great Day.

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7 years ago, July 7th 2011 No: 15 Msg: #139776  
"You're stupid"? Posted anonymously? That's all? Well, first of all, your blog is available to the general public on the internet, which means anybody can read it. There might be people out there who don't agree with your view on the world or your approach at travelling. So what? OK, it shocked you as you thought the blog entry that received the comment was harmless and inoffensive. I've never read your blog, so I can't comment on that, but what you perceive as inoffensive might really piss off somebody else. That doesn't necessarily mean that they're 'haters'. Maybe they just wanted to leave a quick feedback to your blog. Doing so anonymously and in an offensive manner isn't the ideal way to do so, obviously. Would you have preferred to get a scathing comment, more personal and detailed than "You're stupid", bearing the name of a TB-member?

And then, why are all the replies in this thread so one-sided? I understand that zuzuzu needs some TLC now, but is she really so traumatized that everybody needs to tell her how awesome she is, and that everybody who doesn't think so is jealous and a 'hater'? What's up with that rhetoric? And what's with that culture of constant, incessant backscratching on Travelblog? Why are good old-fashioned irony and sarcasm so conspicuously absent from this site? Where are all the Australians telling her to "Toughen up, princess!"? Why does any criticism automatically make you an outcast?

I'd much rather get some constructive criticism than the neverending same old "Good for yoooouuuuuuuu...."-bullshit that makes up 99.9% of all comments on here. Plus, if I started writing 'offensive' comments to blogs I don't like I wouldn't get off the computer anymore. So I don't. I'm not interested in wasting my time arguing with strangers on the internet. If I was, I wouldn't do it anonymously, though.

And just if anybody is interested to hear: when I was a member on this website for less than a month, and just published my first couple of blogs, which were really only meant to be read by friends and family, I got several negative comments by one of the MODERATORS, attacking me personally for not liking his favourite country. Needless to say, I was quite shocked and immediately deleted the comments. I thought "Wtf? I don't want any random douchebags reading my blog", so I went private for the next two and a half years. Since then, my blog has evolved from mere info for the folks back home to a more general commentary about the places I travel, so I went public again not that long ago. I'm a front-page blogger now. I haven't gotten any more negative comments, though, despite the fact that I think my blog is quite offensive in parts, for I don't pull my punches and I prefer straight talking to superficial bullshit. That moderator is still a moderator, I think, and he's one of those much-revered bloggers who get showered constantly with flowery comments and compliments. I wonder whether he'd still get those if people realized what a 'hater' he is... Reply to this

7 years ago, July 7th 2011 No: 16 Msg: #139780  

I got several negative comments by one of the MODERATORS, attacking me personally for not liking his favourite country. Needless to say, I was quite shocked and immediately deleted the comments. I thought "Wtf? I don't want any random douchebags reading my blog", so I went private for the next two and a half years. Since then, my blog has evolved from mere info for the folks back home to a more general commentary about the places I travel, so I went public again not that long ago. I'm a front-page blogger now. I haven't gotten any more negative comments, though, despite the fact that I think my blog is quite offensive in parts, for I don't pull my punches and I prefer straight talking to superficial bullshit. That moderator is still a moderator, I think, and he's one of those much-revered bloggers who get showered constantly with flowery comments and compliments. I wonder whether he'd still get those if people realized what a 'hater' he is...


Goodness me! I didnt know any of the moderators here are posting such negative comments, that it would cause somebody to make their blog private. They can disagree with blogger if they want, but there is certainly a way this should be done. Communication skills apply.

Note: Private blogs are also visible to moderators for moderating purposes.

Jens, would you mind sending me a private message about this, and describe the comments if you don't still have them. I want to determine if they are just disagreeing with your opinion, or if they are something we should monitor for the future. Keep in mind though, that moderators are just members with extra rights, but don't necessarily present TravelBlogs view when they post and comment.


[Edited: 2011 Jul 07 10:27 - Mell:49612 ]

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7 years ago, July 7th 2011 No: 17 Msg: #139785  

And what's with that culture of constant, incessant backscratching on Travelblog?


Many bloggers warrent it in my opinion. I tend to say nothing at all when they dont, so that would account for my top heavy tendancy of compliments over negative comments about bloggers and blogs. Dont, know why the others are so complimentary though. Maybe they will post here and explain themselves. 😉

Why are good old-fashioned irony and sarcasm so conspicuously absent from this site? Where are all the Australians telling her to "Toughen up, princess!"? Why does any criticism automatically make you an outcast?


I suppose, many have become allergic to the type of careless negativity that is frequently posted on internet forums, that drags down all other more productive or fun discussion.

TravelBlog has a reputation for being nice, and many regulars comments on this, but I do wish that there was more action on the forums. Being nice is nice, but maybe it is not enough to spark lively forums? Not so sure it would be a good idea to have comments like 'toughen up, princess' though, because I think those who say things like that tend to have very little else to say. Internet forums tend to become burried under heaps of that type of comment, and not much else.



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7 years ago, July 7th 2011 No: 18 Msg: #139787  
Concur with you Mel, if I don't have something positive to say, then I don't say it all - there are better things to do with my time.

For me the golden rule on the forums is about respect - not a "do unto others as they would do unto you" maxim, as some people might have no problem to receive a direct comment, but others would be offended. So it comes down to validating people on the forums - trying to understand (not always easy to do) how a person feels and respect it.

For example, I am never a person to undertake an organised tour (unless forced to - i.e. North Korea); yet if someone on the forums expresses a strong desire to undertake an organised tour and asks about what sites to see, then I'll answer their question about sites without imposing my views on the negatives of organised tours.

I agree that constructive negative criticism is important, not only on the forums, but in all facets of life - as long as it is genunitely constructive and respectful. Reply to this

7 years ago, July 7th 2011 No: 19 Msg: #139801  
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In response to: Msg #139776 Jen, Cheers for your honesty and truth was i was overly sensitive, I now welcome all comments in all forms. I just needed to "cowboy up" Take care Reply to this

7 years ago, July 7th 2011 No: 20 Msg: #139807  
Hi zuzuzu, the 'Toughen up princess' wasn't directed at you, it was just a cheap shot at Australians, who really love to say insensitive stuff like that. If somebody writes a nasty comment, you got all right to react the way you did. Reply to this

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