Iv always wanted to travel, thats why i picked my course but my boyfriend of three years has already did the 'world trip' and wants to settle down, mabey just go on a two week holiday every year. I love him and want to be with him but wonder if i will always hold it against him if i dont go. He also says that if i go then it will just cause problems and we wont work out!! Should I go or stay?!
Reply to this Do it. Or you risk always regretting it and in the long run resenting your boyfriend for stopping you.
If he really loves you and it's meant to be then he will let you go and see the world and then come back to him at the end of it. Since he has already done a 'world trip', doesn't it seem a little bit selfish that he doesn't want you to do and see the same things......
How long do you want to travel for? You could arrange a 3 - 6 month trip and have your boyfriend come out to meet you at some point for his 2 week holiday.....you don't have to be away for a year.
Reply to this Hello Katie 😊
Your boyfriend has a point, when he says your travelling may cause problems with the relationship. People change when they travel. But, other things in life also affect relationships. One way or another you have a path to follow in your life, and you will feel drawn to that path, no matter what seems to be standing in your way. Not doing what you want with your life is one of the most painful things a person can experience. I have been in that situation a few times, and I have always chosen to cut loose, because for me the only way to live my life is the way I want to live it. Of course, I do take my loved ones into consideration, but I still predominantly live the way I want to.
Since you chose to study tourism, my guess is that travel is very important to you. Taking this into consideration, I would go, if I were in your position. It is always important to love yourself first, before loving another person. Be true to yourself, but at the same time try to work out a compromise with your boyfriend. Maybe he could be tempted into taking another world trip, or maybe he could join you during your trip for a shorter time. Or maybe he could just enjoy your travel reports, until you get back. He is/was a traveller afterall, so these should be of interest to him.
Mel
Reply to this make a decision that will give you peace..whatever it may be, it may be very hard to choose and decide between 2 things that you love most. Mell is right, if you could arrange some things to meet in the middle that would be better, but if not then choose a thing that would make you happier and give you peace 😊
Reply to this Love is about compromises not selfishness......your boyfriend has had part of the cake, you havent had yours but if you lose it, you will never have it since you will be waiting for him to buy for you to taste (since it looks like he is the only one allowed in your relationship to buy cake.
In simple terms, your boyfriend knows what the world is all about after traveling and you dont. And now you have an opportunity to travel before you guys settle down and he is not comfortable. Once you settle down, he will be more than insecure to leave you alone. That means you have to wait until its convenient for him to travel, for you to get the opportunity to travel and that is, if he is in the moods of traveling with you.
If you guys are in true love, then he should allow you for even a month to travel.
Joe
Reply to this Go----it all will work out for the best----have fun!!!
Reply to this He has already had his adventure.I think it's incredibly selfish of him to try and stop you.I bet his stories are part of the reason you are so excited to go.GO GO GO
Reply to this I would try to pursue my dreams. It's the whole reason I'm trying to avoid getting into a relationship for the time being. In most cases, you can only do one thing, and not both. But if you have a truly loving and caring boyfriend, he would respect your decisions to do what you want with your life. After all, we only live once. After we're gone, we are never going to be on this earth again.
So please, do what you want with your life. Do what you believe should be done. I've committed myself to travelling; I don't want anything to stop me. I've been in one relationship, while I was on my last trip to Europe, and it impacted on a lot of the travelling. If not for that relationship, I may have seen much more.
I'm going over to Europe again this year, and if I happen to fall in love with anyone, they would have to accept me for who I am and what I wish for. Otherwise, we're not compatible. Surely relationships make it much harder to achieve your goals, but do what you won't regret. Make the most you can out of your life.
Reply to this thanks guys!! its gona b sooo hard but i reckon il go CRAZY if i dont.....has to be done 😊😊
Reply to this i think you willhave to understand your bf.. but aalso give your self the chance. why can't he understand your passion to travel and see the world.. maybe he can share the same with you and he is not in the position to hold youback and help you fullfill your dreams. i'd say you should go for it.
Reply to this cool..when are you going? tell us how it all go with your bf and your trip as well! Good luck and enjoy 😊
Reply to this Hate to say it, but choose travel. If you even had to ask this question then you already know the answer 😊
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Reply to this I believe love is about accepting each other , knowing one's strengths and weaknesses as well as supporting each other's dreams and goals in life. Well, if your bf really loves you, he will trust you and let you travel for as long as the communication is there and stable. Many people say, distance will test your relationship and will make it more stronger and better because even though you are not able to see each other for how many months or years, the connection is still there intertwined with trust and support. Let one another grow and mature enough to handle things right and talk in an honest and calm voice. But the most important thing is to pray and seek for God's guidance and everything will all fall in HIS plans and ways.
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