My friend is with this girl from Vietnam, Dalat. He sends her $2,000 every month for 4 years without fail. As they are not in the same country, they see each other only about 10 days a year but he loves her very much. Now he wants to marry her, she refuses to marry him and wants to walk away. My friend is heartbroken. Is there no such thing as true love?
Reply to this Hello Melissa 😊
There is such a thing as true love but as the saying goes 'money cant buy love'. Expensive gifts are nice, but any man who thinks these will secure a life long relationship is being naive in my opinion.
Mel
Reply to this I think true love exists but I believe only a few people ever find it. The time has to be just right to feel the things they need to feel from just the right person. I do think too many people get swept away easily believing it's something that it's not and that's why a lot of people get hurt. People rather live in the illusion then face the cold truth sometimes, but then one of them wakes up 😊
From what you said about your friend, I don't think that was true love. First of all $2,000 every month is a fortune there in vietnam so there is a chance she might of been using him with that money. (I don't know but it's possible) and if she really loved him, they would of been together instead of apart long ago. sorry if i am being hard.
Reply to this I believe in true love without money involve cause its a feeling where both of u really like and love each other. There are many fish in the sea..he may find the best girl in this world. SOmeone who is ready to give back the love that he deserve. Dont let the money involve in love.
Reply to this I think that's very sad for your friend. It's hard to love someone when you don't see them all year though. Do you truly love
them or the
idea of them.
Reply to this Sorry for your friends, but in South East Asia, it does happen more often than you think....I even know of stories where there is no one guy, but 3 of them sending money every month...as they don't visit often, the girl can make sure they don't even know about each other.
He should have open his eyes a little earlier...sad story...
Reply to this I went to Latvia to see my first girlfriend. All the way from Australia, I spent over $3,000 to spend 2 months with her, only for her to break up with me as soon as I returned home. Pity.
Reply to this The first thing my last boyfriend said when I broke up with him was ''after all the money I spent on you''. I was tempted to get judgemental and ask if he thought he was buying me but I suppose many men place a higher importance on money as a way to solve relationship and other problems than women do.
Reply to this Mell, sorry to say, but I don't think the story you relate has anything to do with the one mentioned by Melissa.
Melissa friend is sadly a very frequent occurence of "love stories" that do happen when people travel on holidays in some countries. I've lived in Vietnam for four years and know tones of stories...some of them explained blantly by the girl who was receiving the money from her foreign boyfriend each month.
Your story may be sad...but we all know that when there is a break-up after a long and nice relationship, not only nice words are exchanged...I think this is quite universal. The story of Melissa is not one of love or money, it's a scam...
Men do not put more importance on money than woman, regardless of who spend it. All stories are different in this respect. Sometimes it just make me laugh to ear people say...I'm independent, I don't dependend on you...but hey, continue to pay for everything if you want me to stay with you. Not saying this relate to anybody's story, but from a man perspective, I do ear this quite often and it make me smile.
Reply to this .....but from a man perspective...
So men do place more importance on money then. 😉
Reply to this Mell, You didn't read what I wrote above. Men do not put more importance on money. Maybe there is the point of the one who spend the money and the one who receive it....but that doesn't have to be gender biais. It's a little to easy.
Let say you did care of your boyfriend and not the opposite around...you may have say the same thing. I have girlfriends in this case. Putting it on a gender basis is just finding an excuse. I don't know your story so I won;t judge or comment on it.
You may also say that does who have care more about what they have than those who don't have...this go back to the beginning of humanity...but this isn't realte to travel...
Reply to this Sorry, should have double checked my spelling...full of mistakes...not great....
Reply to this It's a little to easy.
Well, it is not actually so easy. I am basing what I said on gender psychology I have been reading for the last 10 years. Men place a high priority on money as a means to solve problems.
but this isn't realte to travel...
No problem. It is in the Chat Forum, so it does not have to be travel related.
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