'Mum, is this the trip?'


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January 10th 2016
Published: January 12th 2016
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Muelle de Ortigeuira
I was reluctant to have kids: they are for life! I mean, the responsibility of looking after someone for the rest of my life was a bit overwhelming, as even when they leave home to start their own lives you still worry about them. However, as I grew older this changed and we decided, after all, to have kids BUT we were sure this will not change our lifestyle and we will continue traveling and doing the things we like. Has this happened?, well, not quite. Let me explain myself:

When Dax and I met we were both very outgoing and liked being with people and doing things: we met friends in the pub or for a Sunday roast, we traveled by van to different parts of the UK, we got married in the Cook Islands and had a 5 month honey moon, etc; however, this changed a bit over the years, as I think it's normal when you feel comfortable at home and, by the time Ella was born, we were a pair of lazy thirty-somethings, even though in our minds we were still young and active. We wanted to be 'cool parents', the kind of parents you see going to parties, rock climbing, scuba diving and traveling with their kids, the kind of parents that have hobbies and skills that want to share with their loved ones.

During the first months of Ella's life we were trying to get used to having a pooping machine living with us and also to immerse ourselves in the Spanish way of life, as this was the first time for Dax living in Spain and for me, even though I'm Spanish, I was for so long in England that it was a bit hard to feel comfortable in Spain again. Once we got used to all that we wanted to do more, but then we bought a new sofa and, oh my! it's so confortable that it's very difficult to get out of it; we also bought a 39 inch flat screen tv, so the combination of both of them meant that we were even lazier than before. If you include lack of sleep, Facebook, books TBR, sudoku, skype, full time jobs, lack of someone to look after Ella when we want to do something else, etc, the result is that in the two years that we were living in Majorca
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El mejor banco del mundo (Loiba)
we had just done a few activities: we went scuba diving once, once rock climbing and once paddle surfing... we can't even blame Ella for this, it was just that we were lazy! Then we moved to Galicia and it didn't get much better. After just a few months we decided to go back to the United Kingdom, for many reasons, one of them being, it is so easy to travel from London to anywhere in the world...

I find great inspiration in the blogs of Maisondubonheur; I'm always looking forward to his entries and read them with (healthy) envy. I think what Pierre does that we don't is just to GO FOR IT!, he plans his holidays far in advance to get good deals but also, I guess, to make sure that they will happen. He also has a thirst for making the most of life that he is passing onto his kids; his motto is "Some dream their life, I live my dreams", which is awesome, and it made me realize that I'm more of a dreamer than a doer. I always think: do I want Ella to be a couch potato like I've become or do
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Estatua de un gaiteiro en Ortigueira
I want her to be like Pierre's kids, who have travelled extensively, are scuba divers, speak several languages and don't mind if they sleep in a 5 star hotel or in a bus? I think the answer is obvious. (Please, note that there are lots of travelbloggers who travel with kids, I'm just using Pierre as an example because he's one of my favourites).

So, with this in mind and being the beginning of a new year, I have made a promise to myself to do more (I will soon(ish) become 40 and I think I'm having some kind of middle-age crisis).

This year, we spent a very nice Christmas break in Spain with my family. There, we visited (and I quote) 'The best bank in the world' (this is what happens when you use Google translator instead of a proper trained person... hint, hint!) meaning, of course, 'bench' and not 'bank'. We thought that, being a cold wintery Tuesday, there won't be many people, but we were wrong! There were queues to have photos taken at the actual bench so I don't even want to imagine how busy it must be in summer. I've heard that the
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Chocolate en Burdeos
villagers have started complaining about how many people go there everyday... imagine how it must feel to live in a quiet village with not much going on and, suddenly, have hundreds of people going there everyday...

We also visited Ortigueira, which is one of my favourite towns in A Coruña province, where a Celtic Festival is hosted every summer (worth checking it out, all concerts and camping on a forrest next to the beach (or the actual beach, if you fancy) are free, I've been there twice and loved it each time).

But the highlight of the holidays was going to be the return drive to England: because we were driving in the van with Ella (who is only 2 years old) we decided to make a little holiday out of it and spend a couple of days in France. We told Ella we were going on a trip and she spend the evening before we left walking around our flat pulling her suitcase... it was too cute!

We left very early on a Thursday and drove for nearly 12 hours to get to Bordeaux. Ella is a brilliant traveler and, with the aid of an ipad
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Río garone, Burdeos
and a few cartoon movies, it was very easy going. She is only 2 years old and has already been to 4 countries... I was 19 when I left Spain for the first time (*sigh*); she will not remember any of this, but we hope it will make her love traveling as much as we do and open her mind and eyes to different people and ways of doing things; while in France, she kept trying to say 'merci' and 'bon jour' and even now that we are back in UK, still does! (she gets really confused with having 3 languages). Halfway to Bordeaux Ella asked me 'Mum, is this the trip?' I guess in her mind she was excited about going on a trip, even though she didn't know what a trip actually was.

Bordeaux is a beautiful city and we were very lucky with the weather (the previous day it had rained all the way while we drove from Spain) as it was sunny and not even cold. We enjoyed a walk by the river and through the streets searching for a nice place to have a coffee (€4.50 for a coffee!!!!) and buy baguettes for the drive.

While in Bordeaux we came to realise that our traveling experience has changed a lot since Ella was born: before we were able to sleep for as long as we wanted and go to bed late; walk through a city for hours and resting in a café while we decided what to do next... freedom, my friends, freedom; now we are in bed by 9pm and up by 7.30am whether we want it or not; we can only walk for an hour, if we are lucky, before Ella wants to be carried in our arms (mostly mine, as she is going through a 'mummy phase' right now) and chilling in a café or bar for more than 20 mins is out of the question... so we have to get used to this new way of traveling.

After the rip off that the French motorways are (we paid around €150 each way just on tolls... or should I say trolls?), arriving the next evening in Mont Saint Michel was a beautiful scene: it was already dark and the island could be seen in the distance floating illuminated by many lights... I am not very good at taking night
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Desde Saint Michel para el mundo
photos so, no images, I'm afraid.

The good thing about traveling off season is that everything is empty and cheap. We had a 70% discount in our hotel room (which otherwise we could have never afford it) with views to the bay and the island, the most comfortable beds I've ever slept in a hotel and a great buffet breakfast with the breakfast room pretty much to ourselves. We were even able to park for free while visiting the island, as the hotel next door was closed for the winter season and we could use their car park.

There is a 30 min walk to the island or a 5 mins bus ride... guess which one we chose with a toddler. The buses are very curious, as the are 'reversible', meaning that, because there is not much space for them to turn around on the road to the island when the tide is high, they have a driver seat both at the front and the end (actually, there is no end, just two fronts) and the driver simply changes places depending on which way the bus is going... so clever!

The island is incredibly beautiful and the bus drops you at the perfect spot for taking photos. Walking through the old village is like being transported to the Middle Ages and, again, we were glad that it was low season as there weren't many people, it must feel a bit too crowded in summer. But, to be honest, the best view is to the island instead of from it, even though it's nice to look out into the bay.

After a short drive to Calais, we got the tunnel train back to England and Ella pretended she was driving the car while we were inside the train and, once we were back home she was very happy to see our cats, Bilbo and Frodo, and her favourite teddy bear again after so long.

Now, I promise this year we will make a bigger effort to travel and discover, even if it's within the UK, where we still have a lot to see.

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'Mamá, ¿dónde está el viaje?



No estaba muy segura de querer tener hijos, ya que son para toda la vida; quiero decir que
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Vista de la bahía desde la isla
la responsabilidad de cuidar de alguien el resto de tu vida me agobiaba un poco ya que, incluso cuando se van de casa, sigues preocupada por ellos. Sin embargo, en cuanto me fui haciendo mayor, este sentimiento cambió y Dax y yo decidimos que sí que queríamos tener hijos PERO estábamos seguros de que nuestro estilo de vida no cambiaría y seguiríamos viajando y haciendo las cosas que nos gustan. ¿Ha sido así?, más bien no... dejadme que me explique:

Cuando Dax y yo nos conocimos los dos éramos de salir mucho y nos gustaba estar con gente y hacer cosas: salíamos a comer Sunday Roasts a los pubs con amigos, viajábamos en la furgo por el Reino Unido y Europa, nos casamos en las Islas Cook y tuvimos una luna de miel de 5 meses, etc.; sin embargo, esto cambió con los años, como creo que es normal cuando estás cómodo en tu propia casa y, cuando Ella nació éramos un par de treintañeros vagos, aunque nosotros creíamos que seguíamos siendo jóvenes y activos. Queríamos ser 'padres guay', los padres que se ven en fiestas, escalando, buceando y viajando con sus hijos, los padres que tienen hobbies y
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La bahía desde la isla
habilidades que comparten con su familia.

Durante los primeros meses de vida de Ella, estuvimos intentando acostumbrarnos a tener en casa un máquina de hacer caca y a vivir en España ya que era la primera vez para Dax y, yo había pasado tanto tiempo en Inglaterra que era como vivir en un país nuevo. Una vez que nos acostumbramos a todo eso queríamos hacer más cosas, pero entonces nos compramos un sofá súper cómodo y una tele de 39 pulgadas y nos volvimos incluso más perezosos. Si a eso le sumas el no poder dormir toda la noche, Facebook, libros, sudoku, skype, trabajos de jornada completa y el no tener a nadie que cuidara a Ella mientras nosotros hacíamos algo más, pues el resultado es que en los dos annos que vivimos en Mallorca, sólo fuimos a escalar una vez, a bucear otra y a hacer paddle surf otra más... después nos mudamos a Galicia y la cosa no mejoró así que cuando llegó la hora de volver a Inglaterra pensamos que, una de las ventajas de vivir aquí era la posibilidad de viajar a cualquier parte del mundo.

Encuentro inspiración en los blogs de Maisondubonheur y siempre estoy deseando que escriba alguna entrada nueva para leerla con envidia (sana). Creo que lo que Pierre hace y nosotros no hacemos es que simplemente 'va a por ello': planea sus vacaciones con antelación para conseguir buenas ofertas pero también, me imagino, para asegurarse de que suceden (si ya tienes el billete comprado, te aseguras de volar, si lo vas dejando, al final es mucho más caro y te quedas en casa). Además tiene unas ganas de aprovechar la vida al máximo y se lo está enseñando a sus hijos; su lema es "Algunos sueñan su vida, yo vivo mis sueños" y gracias a él me he dado cuenta de que yo soy más una soñadora que una "hacedora" . Siempre pienso: "¿quiero que Ella se convierta en una vaga como me he convertido yo o quiero que sea más como los hijos de Pierre, que han viajado mucho, son buceadores, hablan varios idiomas y no les importa dormir en una hamaca o en un hotel de 5 estrellas? Creo que la respuesta es obvia (hay muchos más bloggers que viajan con sus hijos, pero Pierre es mi favorito).

Así que, con esto en mente y empezando un nuevo año, me he prometido a mi misma hacer más cosas (cumpliré 40 años relativamente pronto, así que quizá esto sea una crisis de la mediana edad).

Este año pasamos las Navidades en Galicia con mi familia; allí visitamos "el mejor banco del mundo". Pensamos que, al ir un martes por la mañana en diciembre, casi no habría gente, pero nos equivocábamos. Había cola para sacarse las fotos en el banco así que no me quiero ni imaginar cómo estará en verano. He oído que los del pueblo no están muy contentos con tanta gente... imagina lo que es vivir en un pueblo tranquilo y, de repente, tener a cientos de personas allí cada día...

También fuimos a Ortigueira, que es uno de los pueblos que más me gustan de la provincia y donde todos los años tienen un festival celta que merece la pena visitar ya que, tanto los conciertos como el camping son gratis... yo he ido dos veces y las dos me lo pasé estupendamente.

Pero lo mejor de las vacaciones iba a ser el viaje de vuelta a Inglaterra: como íbamos en la furgo con Ella (que sólo tiene dos años), decidimos hacer
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Donde el río Sena se une al océano
unas vacaciones y pasar un par de días en Francia. Le dijimos a Ella que nos íbamos de viaje y se pasó la tarde antes de salir paseando por el pasillo de casa tirando de su maleta

Salimos un jueves muy temprano y condujimos casi 12 horas para llegar a Burdeos. Ella es una viajera nata y, con la ayuda del ipad y algunas pelis de dibujos, se portó muy bien. Sólo tiene 2 años ya ha estado en 4 países... yo no salí de España hasta que tenía 19 años; no se va a acordar de nada de esto, pero esperamos que le guste viajar tanto como a nosotros, que le abra los ojos y la mente a gente y modos de hacer las cosas diferentes; cuando estábamos en Francia intentaba decir 'merci' y 'bon jour' y ahora que ya estamos de vuelta en Inglaterra, lo sigue intentando! (se confunde mucho al tener 3 idiomas, la pobre). A medio camino a Burdeos, me preguntó "Mamá, ¿dónde está el viaje?"... me imagino que en su cabecita estaba contenta de ir de viaje aunque, en realidad, no supiera muy bien qué significa.

Burdeos es una ciudad muy bonita y
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El lado glamuroso de los viajes en furgoneta...
tuvimos mucha suerte con el tiempo (el día anterior había llovido todo el camino desde Ferrol hasta llegar a Burdeos) y lucía el sol y no hacía frío. Disfrutamos caminando a la orilla del río y por las calles buscando un sitio para tomar un café (€4,50 por una taza de café!) y comprar baguettes para el camino.

Nuestra experiencia viajando ha cambiado mucho desde que Ella nació: antes podíamos acostarnos y levantarnos a la hora que quisiéramos, caminar durante horas por las ciudades o descansar en una cafetería planeando qué hacer... la libertad, amigos, la libertad... ahora nos vamos a la cama alas 21.00 y nos levantamos a las 7.30, queremos o no; sólo podemos caminar durante una hora máximo antes de que Ella nos pida que la llevemos en brazos y sentarnos en una cafetería o bar durante más de 20 mins es impensable... así que tenemos que acostumbrarnos a necesitar más tiempo para ver los sitios.

Después del timo que suponen las autopistas francesas (pagamos unos €150 por trayecto sólo en peajes), al llegar al mont Saint Michel fue una escena preciosa: ya era de noche y la isla parecía que flotaba iluminada por numerosas luces... no se me da muy bien sacar fotos de noche así que no hay imágenes...

Lo mejor de viajar en temporada baja es que todo está vacío y es barato. La habitación del hotel estaba al 70% (si no, nunca nos la hubiéramos podido permitir), con vistas a la bahía y a la isla, camas súper cómodas y un desayuno buffet con el comedor casi para nosotros solos. Incluso pudimos aparcar gratis en el párking del hotel al lado del nuestro que estaba cerrado.

Llegar a la isla lleva 30 minutos andando o 5 en autobús (gratis)... adivinad cuál escogimos con Ella. Los autobuses son muy curiosos porque son "reversibles", es decir, como con marea llena no tienen sitio para dar la vuelta al llegar a la isla, tienen volante tanto en la parte de atrás como en la de delante (en realidad, hay dos partes de delante y ninguna de atrás) y el conductor pasa de un volante a otro según la dirección hacia la que vaya... muy práctico!

La isla es preciosa y el autobús te deja en el sitio perfecto para hacer fotos. Al entrar en las murallas es como si estuvieras en la Edad Media y, una vez más, nos alegramos de haber ido en temporada baja ya que las calles son muy estrechas y en verano tiene que ser muy difícil andar por ellas. la verdad es que las vistas son mucho más bonitas desde donde te deja el autobús que desde la isla, aunque también impresiona ver la bahía.

tras un corto trayecto a Calais, cogimos el euro túnel de vuelta a Inglaterra mientras Ella hacía como que estaba conduciendo la furgoneta y, al llegar a casa, se puso muy contenta de ver a nuestros gatos Bilbo y Frodo y su querido oso Tata otra vez.

He hecho una promesa de que este año haré un esfuerzo mayor por viajar y descubrir, incluso si sólo es en el Reino Unido, donde aún nos queda mucho que ver.

Gracias por leer nuestro blog y no os olvidéis de dejar comentarios si os apetece.

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12th January 2016

Mi pequeña viajera
Seguro que Ella de lo pasó genial Su abuelo se acuerda de cosas que le pasaron con 2 o 3 años Igual ella tambien las recuerda
13th January 2016

Mi pequeña viajera
Ella se lo pasó pipa! yo no me acuerdo de lo que hice la semana pasada... jijijiji
13th January 2016

I love this blog!!!
It brings back so many memories of traveling around Europe when my kids were young. Please blog about your travels around the UK...and elsewhere. I guess it will be more difficult for us to meet up on the Camino in September, but if that is still a possibility let me know...I can send you my itinerary.
13th January 2016

I love this blog
Thanks Bob! I will definitely write about UK, this is such a beautiful country and we still haven't seen but a fraction of it. We have decided to leave the Camino for a when Ella is a bit older and can join us, but we will be in Galicia in June so, if it fits your itinerary maybe we could meet around Santiago then. We are not sure about the dates yet, but I'll let you know. Thanks for your comment!
13th January 2016

Get off that beautiful couch!
Please for your sake, for Ella's sake, get up and get going. We have good friends that sit down the last week of December each year with a calendar and plan activities for two weekends a month for the entire year. They know all the best parks and festivals. Many of their outings are free. They want to make certain they stay active. They have a few favorite locations that they go back to each year. You are young...don't let those healthy years pass you by-- allow the inner traveler out again. They are the go to friends if you want to know what to do in their part of our country. Often we prefer to be spontaneous but it sounds like you need to take some drastic steps so please get out the calendar and make some plans. We loved this blog and your honesty. Glad you didn't blame Ella for you becoming comfortable as it sounds like she is a terrific little traveler. Buy her a camera and take off! We'll be reading your blogs.
13th January 2016

Get off that beautiful couch
Oh Merry Jo, you are so right! I think one of the reasons why we've become so lazy is because spontaneity doesn't always work with us and, if we don't plan it in advance, we just don't do it, so I'm going to take your advice and do what your friends do with the calendar, this way at least we would have something to look forward to. Thanks for the kick in the butt! and thanks for reading and commenting!
13th January 2016

We are talking about buying a couch!
We've been in a very similar situation with our daughter Olivia, who is 2 1/2 years old now. It's amazing how the time flies and, at the end of the day, it's so easy to find 30 minutes (maybe an hour, if we're lucky enough to stay awake) of TV to be the most relaxing/exciting part of the day. When the kiddos are young, a trip can also be a lot of work, but it seems like when they're easily entertained and able to walk on their own two feet, it starts opening up possibilities. Psttt -- parents may get "lives" again! Love this blog -- it made me laugh out loud and really empathize. Thanks for the inspiration to do more fun things in the new year! ;)
13th January 2016

We are talking about buying a couch!
Thanks for your comment, Michelle! I'm glad you empathise and I'm sure there are lots more parents out there who feel the same. Most days I can't even have a shower without having Ella in the toilet with me so, by the time she goes to bed, I can't think of anything else but do nothing on my precious sofa, but while I'm indeed doing nothing, I feel so guilty because I'm 'wasting time'...
14th January 2016

The journey has begun!
Congratulations on starting the new year with your new adventurous direction! It is so tempting to stay where it's comfortable, and it's so much work to undertake a voyage, especially with the new Ella-constraints. But she's also such a great excuse to do fun things that you might not--visiting baby animals, flying a kite, maximizing park times. How fantastic that you live in London with so many glorious spots nearby (though I imagine she's not much good for palaces and cathedrals). Best wishes on continuing your exploring, and I loved the honesty of your blog!
15th January 2016

The journey has begun!
Thanks Tara! I am hoping that we can make it work, as I really miss all the traveling we did in the before-laziness times... We don't actually live in London, but about 40 mins South by train, which in my opinion is better, as we still have all the advantages of it, but none of the noise ;) Thanks for reading and commenting!
15th January 2016

What We Needed to Hear
Thank you for such an honest, and realistic, description of how life changes with children! We're in the "it's probably about time" phase and have also reassured ourselves that the reality of our lives will fall somewhere between the "You'll never travel again" doomsday warnings everyone else provides and the "It'll be the same, only with a third person!" optimism that we would like to delude ourselves can come to pass. We have just *finally* reached a place where we're able to travel more freely ourselves, so have wanted a good year or so of that, but so, so good to hear first-hand what normal expectations we can set for ourselves. Even without a child we love our couch a bit too much - ha! So it happens to the best of us. Happy adventuring in 2016!
16th January 2016

What we needed to hear
I'm glad you enjoyed the blog, guys! It is indeed more complicated to travel with kids, but it's not impossible, it just involves more logistics and patience, but it's also very rewarding; I'm hoping that, as Ella gets older, things will get easier when traveling and at some point it will really 'be the same, only with a third person'. So far, our pledge of spending less time on the sofa seems to be working, so there is light at the end of the tunnel! Thanks for reading and commenting!

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