loved the story What a great "matching" story! Loved the quotes. I'm sure there will be a gorgeous mini Kaz that matches perfectly. All she needs to be is sweet, kind and generous (and too smart for her own good) just like you. lol. x
Madness It seems incredible, given the huge need for loving families, that the processing at our end can take so long. I know there has to be protection from unscrupulous sorts but to take so long is not only at the expense of the adopters but also the children in need. I know firsthand how ridiculous public servants can get with their need for hoops and paper work but this is now so extreme - who would ever have thought you'd be waiting nearly 5 years!
Dreams Now you know I had a dream last night where you had a little girl. You are better translating my dreams than I am but I am taking that as a sign I feel optomistic for you and that the worst case scenario won't be realised. Regardless - the continued slow down must be quite devastating. Just know your friends will continue to be with you through the ups and downs of this journey. With much empathy.
xK
Don't assume the worst. Hello Caroline,
I am genuinely sorry to hear the latest news. However, I would suggest to you that it is a particularly harsh analysis to assume that two day intervals will continue in the immediate term. I'm still feeling very positive for you.
Love
David
2-day allocation Caroline, I'm so sorry about the 2-day allocation. It must be so gut-wrenching to experience these unexpected delays after waiting almost five years.
All I can say is that I really believe the pony is in there somewhere - you just have to keep shovelling!
*&$!!!@ I don't know what to say - this just sucks! While we are on this journey with you and feel some frustration I cannot imagine what a blow this sort of rumour/news is to you. Sending big hugs from all in Tassie.
Website Hi, Katrena! I'd still like to develop a website for Maya to read when she's older, but this will do very well for the trip to China.
Thanks so much for all your support throughout the whole adoption process, sweetheart. This journey has been even more wonderful knowing that you're there with me (us!).
What will we do for a baby present now! You were too fast off the mark for John and I to get organised with helping you - typical - not that it would have sufficed as a present at all!!!! Looking forward to sharing more of the journey, especially the super exciting later stages.
Don't scare yourself - parenting is hard enough! As a friend of Caroline's, and the mother of two (now 18 and 16), I can say: Simply wait and see. Biological children can have attachment issues with their mother, too - as I know. Sometimes, regardless of the origin, the personalities of mother and child may clash. This doesn't mean that a loving, nurturing relationship can't develop and grow - but it does mean that 'expectations' may need to be modified constantly.
My two were extremely different as babies: the first girl was detached, independent, preferring the father, ratty, infuriating yet an absolute doll with carers. The second boy was touchingly affectionate, thoughtful of others, appreciative, cuddly - an angel. There were no physical, medical, or psychological issues to hang my hat on... I just had to treat them as two different people, be a loving mother and do my best.
Now they are both caring mature, polite, considerate, well-balanced.... painfully, infuriatingly, moody teenagers! No child will start out, or end up as 'perfect'. Parenting is actually a job where 'feeling like you're failing' is the best indicator towards future success.
Enjoy the ride ... there will be ups and downs, but it's worth it!
Seven years ago, I met my gorgeous daughter, Maya, from the Yang Dong orphanage, and we have been inseparable ever since. Our journey was chronicled on this blog. We are about to embark on another journey to the Zhengzhou orphanage to welcome the newest member of our family, Sam. So, we're puttin' the band back together.... full info
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loved the story
What a great "matching" story! Loved the quotes. I'm sure there will be a gorgeous mini Kaz that matches perfectly. All she needs to be is sweet, kind and generous (and too smart for her own good) just like you. lol. x