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Published: June 27th 2007
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Last night I met up with M, whom my old coworker re-introduced to me. M also left work/job to come to Shanghai to learn Mandarin and travel. His Chinese is so good! Anyway, he took me to a restaurant in Jing An - Shanghainese food. It was quite nice and truly a pleasure hanging out with him! He then introduced me to some of his friends at a wine bar.
Everyone I've met seems so nice and so happy/excited to be abroad. They have all been so helpful, warm and polite. I actually don't feel lonely! Tomorrow I'm going to meet up M, my dad's friend's son. I met him a few times when we were quite young... but now I have no idea what he looks like, accept for a picture I saw of him. Haha... I find this all quite odd and somewhat awkward for my taste, yet still fun/exciting to meet new people and hear about their experiences. Generally, I find the expats here are open minded and have a positive attitude. I think that's the only way to survive here, or else everything will just upset you until no end.
I got up early this morning so I could leave my apartment before the ayi (translates to 'aunt' but means 'housekeeper') came over at 9:00 AM. I gave her my key so she can come when I'm not here. I was weary at first, but she cleans, does laundry and sometimes cooks for the landlord's and neighbor's apartments, so I think she's reputable.
Anyway, she saw that I had bought a some rugs, sheets, towels, etc. and she asked 1) where I bought it and 2) how much I paid for each item. THEN she asked how much my rent was. Here in China, I find that it's very common to ask people stuff like - how old you are, how much your rent is, how much your stuff costs... etc. I still find it a bit tacky, and don't quite understand what the purpose is. Anyway, I told her how much I paid and she seemed to agree with the price. I can't tell if she was judging/making generalizations me or just plain curious. I didn't want her to think that I have money to spend or waste, nor did I want to her to feel like a "have not". Then she saw me slathering on sunblock, and she commented that only educated people use that type of stuff. I replied that sunscreen is cheap in the States. Not sure what her comments mean, but I think I'm going to make sure next time we only have a 5 minute run in so I can avoid these peculiar conversations.
I kind of think I'm slightly overpaying her... yes, it's only 50 rmb a week, but I think that it should be about 35 rmb a week. I don't really feel like negotiating $2 USD with her. She works hard, does a good job, hand washes all my clohtes even, and just appears honest... but at the same time, I don't want her to think I'm some rich foreigner girl that doesn't care about being ripped off. I want her to know that I KNOW that I'm overpaying her. Anyway, don't know what the balance is between "overpaying" vs. paying extra because the money goes a lot further for "them". I don't hesitate about spending 30 rmb on a coffee... I should maybe be more careful about the way I spend money and learn a more humble lifestyle from people like the ayi.
That brings me to the topic of haggling. It is the most annoying thing to me ever. Nothing in smaller stores has a price tag and you have to ask how much. Then the sales person judges you (aka if you look local or rich) and gives you a price. Then you have to say that it's too much and cut it by 50-60% (yes, it sounds absolutely ridiculous). Typically they budge about 20% off and sells you with how great the product is, etc. Then you budge 10% up and then somewhere in the middle you strike a deal. I hate it. I always feel like I'm getting ripped off because 1) I'm not aggressive enough 2) I think it's tacky to haggle 3) I don't want to waste my time and 4) I'm not good at walking away! Hence, I go to Ikea where there are set prices... everyone pays the same. It's more fair. Anyway, I think I'll improve my bargaining skills, but it's so annoying. I complained to a salesperson about how this is a waste of time and she said "there are so many people in China and there are plenty of sales persons... we have plenty of time." I have to admit, the customer service is great - you are helped the second you set foot in a 20 feet radius. I can't vouch for the level of politeness if you choose not to buy though. What happend to the whole mian zi thing? Seems pretty embarassing to have to haggle.
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very interesting topic -- everyone's judged. perhaps because you're in a foreign city you feel more judged......