Thank you all for your wonderful advice and for sharing some of your own experiences with me.
I have now made the decision that I am definately going to travel, and it will probably be to Western Australia via Asia. I have no idea how or when or the duration, but to be honest, I dont care, because that what excites me about the whole thing.
I now need to tell my wife! gulp! There are family and personal issues that I cannot talk about on here but they make my decision so much harder in one respect, but so much easier in another...if that makes sense?
I will certainly explain to my wife that my own perfect scenario would be that we both do this trip together and just see where it takes us personaly as well as logisticly! But I know that she will not do it. She may suprise me, but I can not see it. I have done as Seth and Hope suggested in their post above. I have whisked her off on trips to New York (1 day notice), Las Vegas (1 week notice), Dubai ( was not going to tell her until we was the airport, but she opened my credit card statement 3 days before!).
We have had lots of planned trips away to Madrid, Dublin, Hamburg etc as well, but she hates the traveling there and back, airports, flying etc. If someone could make the star trek "beam me up scotty" thing real, then she would be laughing. But then I would never use it, as I LOVE the planning and traveling as much as the destination itself!!!
My wife is very homely and loves security. She is the total opposite to me, which 10 years ago when we met, seemed to prove the theory "opposites attract".
Now I have to contend with "dumping this on her" just before christmas and when we are having major problems with her rebelious teenage daughter who is making our lives misery! I know I will get accused of running away, but that is not what im doing. Whats happened in my life over the past few months has just made me stop fighting my traveling urge and thanks to this site, to realise that im not alone in what makes my heart beat faster and excites my thoughts and fantasies. Traveling, seeing, learning and enjoying...all off my own back. Ive been fighting myself for years now, half of me saying "go, just do it" And the other half saying " but you have worked so hard for your nice detached house, flash car and you have a wife who adores you". But has that made me happy? Yes! but mainly when we have been on holidays!!! Life at home in my nice house and in front of my 50" plasma is not living to me, its surviving. Thats sad.
Someone said to me recently, "the most important thing in this short life should not be what you do, but what you choose to do"
This is the biggest choice I have ever made. Ill let you know how good it turned out to be!!
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