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Published: April 4th 2008
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It was the begining of the semester and I showed up for my Turkish class. The professor had not arrived yet and there were only two other students waiting in the room: a young woman from Baghdad, and a young man from Basra. Never before have I felt so ashamed to admit that I am an American. It was a brand new experience for me, a very unexpected and emotional surprise. What exactly does one say in this situation?...
Thankfully, the teacher showed up before too much time had passed, coming to my rescue, sort of. I learned that the young man had come to Turkey four years earlier and that is all I found out about him. He left during the break and didn't come back - must've dropped the course.
Zainep, I've since grown more comfortable around now that we've had some time to talk and get to know each other a bit. The first day was very difficult though. "My family and I came three years ago. We would like to return to Baghdad, but the situation is very bad there..."
I actually tried to put into words something of an awkward apology that first day, but as the words were stumbling out of my mouth I realized that there is no right to say "I'm sorry that my country has repeatedly destroyed your country..." Furthermore, the response to that is definitely not "no worries, it's no big deal..."
Another thing that struck me at first was seeing an Iraqi in a normal setting. The typical images that I have of Iraqis are of yelling men in crowds or of weeping women in black robes next to explosions; images of war. A healthy, attractive young woman, dressed in European clothes for some reason does not fit into my idea of what an Iraqi looks like. Have I unknowingly bought somewhat into the dehumanization of Iraqis promulgated by the Western media and the Bush administration?
Conversing with Zainep (her English is pristine and her Turkish is quite fluent too) is heartbreaking. Baghdad was, centuries ago, the intellectual center of the world. Zainep radiates that brilliance though her young eyes have no doubt seen the worst of human sadness... all for the sake of power and oil.
Even though Zainep clearly understands that my anger with the Bush administration is shared by many other outraged Americans, there is still this terrible feeling of guilt that overwhelms me whenever we are together. She is a refugee here because of MY government's shameful, greedy, and inhumane actions.
After graduation, she would like to return to Baghdad, but she does not know if she'll be able to find any work. She's considering a visit there this summer, which sounds unimaginable to me. Even though it is very dangerous, because of one of Bush's terrible wars, it is her HOME.
Shame.
Please share with me your thoughts on this.
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Matt
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As weird as this sounds, I would say, cheer up, you really have no part in the actions of the American state. Probably you and I have about as much to do with what the American military does as we have to do with what the Chinese military does. I'm not just talking about the vote, either; I'm not saying that you (or anyone) is not responsible for what the Bush administration does, just because you didn't vote for him. Maybe you did for all I know, although judging from this entry I would say the likelihood of this is "low." I guess I would say that the vote itself is more of a token or an illusion that we usually think it is. We are sort of put in a situation where, under duress, we must choose between two very bad alternatives. It's like when Batman is forced to choose between saving his girlfriend or saving his sidekick. This never happens, but if hypothetically Batman was only able to save Robin, we would probably say that it was not Batman who killed his girlfriend, it was the villain who set up the whole demented situation. We are told from a very young age that the state is the people, that we are all joint participants in self-rule, cogs in a grand democratic machine. This is in some small way sort of true, but I think it's more accurate to say that we are subjects of our government than co-rulers of our government. Another way of looking at this is to see that no action you could have taken before March 2003 would have prevented the American military from entering Iraq. You seem to be self-identifying as an "American;" "Americans" invaded Iraq, you're an "American," and so you're responsible in some way. My thought is, you and I are part of the American people but not the American state. I hope I do not sound like too much of a conspiracy theorist when I say that the state (pretty much every state, around the world) makes an enormous effort to propogate a grand lie, namely that "I, the state, am the people." States come and go, often quickly and violently; what endures after such a coup is the people. I would not hold yourself any more responsible for the war, than I hold my Chinese friends responsible for their government's actions in Tibet, or than you hold Zainep responsible for what Saddam did to the Kurds. Much more appropriate than shame here are simply compassion and empathy. I always prefer to relate to people on the human level, and compassion (in the Latin the word literally means "suffering-with") is a more profound and even sacred force I think than anything to with guilt or responsibility.