Hi all.
Hell yes, female sex tourists exist. Sorry, I know this discussion has come a long way since Mell's initial post, but I just found this thread minutes ago.
Anyway, I just finished my documentary on the Kuta Cowboys of Bali. They are the beach boys who're very popular with female travelers. (Somebody mentioned Aussie women, but women of just about every nationality can be found 'riding Cowboys' these days.) Here are some of the things I observed/learned during my two years working on the film. But that's all they are: one man's observations.
- Most useful definition of sex tourism I found was off wikipedia: "travel with the full or partial intention to have sex." That covers someone like Snap Shot Stacey (God bless her!) as well as a woman who pays for sex in foreign lands (Glod bless her too!). A key difference between the 2 scenarios, though, would be the power dynamic. No matter how you play it, once money comes into the picture there will be a power imbalance.
- I'm personally against the term "romance holiday". The notion that men travel for sex and women for romance is a needless distinction, and an unnecessary burden on women. Why should women have to justify themselves? They have as much right to have anonymous, fuss-free nookies as men do.
- Why women do it? Depends on the woman. Power, desire, attraction to exotic men, anonymity, easily available partners, because their age or body type has made them undesirable back home, because the men make them feel alive... In the end, the best answer I could work with was: it's because they want to, and because they can.
- The 'kaching' post by Sir Halberd was on the money. In the case of the Cowboys, for eg, they know most women would feel uncomfortable paying for 'it' straight up. So they sell love and companionship instead, and get money out of you throughout the duration of your stay. Free meals, etc, and if they can, money for a sick grandma or two along the way. To their credit, they'll stick with you even if you don't pay. That's where their claim that they are not gigolos is true. They genuinely enjoy being with foreign women... but if someone with money (or more money) comes along, she'll get them every single time.
- Most women do not fall for the love bit (anymore). But they don't mind giving in to the make-believe. They play along because these guys are fun company. They pay attention to them, they make them laugh, and of course, they're good in bed. (As a straight man, even I could see why women found them charming. Sure, they're rogues, but we're all drawn to charming rogues.)
Apologies for the long post. Didn't mean for it to be a dissertation. If you're interested, you can catch the film trailer at www.cowboysinparadise.com or on the film's Facebook page. Cheers.
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