boyfriend vs. backpacking!!!

Well Carla,
There's a few things I think you need to think about before making this decision. Granted I'm sure you would rather experience the world with him, but as you stated, this is not an option. So first, if it's a situation where you have to choose, I think it boils down to "can I see myself spending the rest of my life with this person?". If not, then perhaps the trip might be something you may want to take a look at. If it is, then you can then ask yourself if you think your relationship is strong enough to survive a year apart.

Also, I think your age has a certain effect in the situation. If you're 18 or 19, (don't take this the wrong way) but chances are that the current boyfriend is not going to be the man you marry. Obviously, many people do it, especially if they found that once in a lifetime love. I'm just trying to point out that in general, in my culture people get married a little later on. (not sure what the custom is in your culture or what your preference is). If you are .....how can I put this in a way that won't make all the ladies on the board hate me (hehe jk)..... "more experienced", then that might influence your decision. If you are looking to settle down soon with your current boyfriend, then this might be where the relationship takes a little precedence.

Furthermore, yet another option, is instead of going away for a year with your best friend, you can break up the trip into a few 1 or 2 month trips. Strong relationships should be able to at least survive that in my opinion. Granted you won't be able to see all of them with your best friend, but you would still be able to visit many great places AND still maintain a relationship with your boyfriend.

Obviously, no one on this board can make the final decision for you. Hopefully, you'll be able to find the answer within yourself and make the choice that makes you happiest. In any case though, I wish ya the best! Take care 😊



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Hello Carla 😊


Here is a thread about the same subject that may interest u

Mel Reply to this

Hi Carla,

Welcome to TravelBlog.

As mentioned above, you are going to see so much, and meet so many people. Even though you will likely be missing your boyfriend, please don't let that spoil the amazing opportunity you have created for yourself by going in the first place. You will never be in that place, at that time again.

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U are both very young Carla. You and he are unlikely to have fully settled permanently on exactly how u are going to live your lives. People and their priorities change. U really dont know what opportunities the future will present and what will be important to u and your boyfriend 10 years from now. He may at some time in the future decide he wants to do some travelling too.

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Wow you sound exactly like me. 24yrs old, 2 year relationship etc. The difference being my partner already has a mortgage and I live in Australia which makes it much harder to take 'short trips' as everyone suggests because airfares cost a fortune from our edge of the Earth.

He said he was going to go with me. 2 years later and it hasn't happened yet. I've struggled for a long time with this but I've finally decided to work in Europe for 12 months on my own. And we're going to take a break while I'm gone and see what happens when I come back. As you said, 'if it;s mean to be' it will be. That's exactly what I've concluded too. I want to feel more alive and right now I don't.

Have fun girl! Who knows, we may bump into each other. 😊 Reply to this

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