I have't done a whole lot of solo traveling, mostly because I am female. And I don't like to admit that I'll avoid solo travel, but I hate even more feeling like I'm looked at as "meat" or a prostitute.
France - Paris, Marseilles...wouldn't matter if I was walking with a guy. In Lyon, my guy friend joked we should cover me with a bit sheet so I wouldn't get cat-called (almost all of the cat calls were from recent immigrants, while only two were from French guys).
Malaysia...I was with my boyfriend so I didn't really notice the men until the one and only time I crossed a street by myself, then boom, out of nowhere, cat-called, honking horns, etc. My boyfriend, who was across the street, was rolling with laughter.
Canada - Yup, Canada...try the Arab neighborhoods in Montreal if you like cat-calls. Or when the American college guys come up for their alcholic spring breaks to Montreal...they're suddenly sleezier because they're in "another country".
My favourite story about sleezy guys has to be the "rock-thrower" in Montreal..he was a recent immigrant from Abu-Dhabi, as he proudly told me. He had tossed pebbles at me to get my attention. I yelled at him, saying "We do NOT throw rocks in this country!" He just grinned...oops, I had made eye contact.
So yeah, it really doesn't matter where you go. And I do not group all men into one category, rather I group all jerks into one category regardless of their nationality!
One thing I have learned, is do not respond. Going back to Paris two years later, I didn't have as many problems. Avoiding the eye contact was key. But go ahead and make yourself loud and clear if your efforts fail. 😊
My general experiences though, have led me to fear traveling solo to places like Egypt and Morocco. I have even dated a couple of Arabs in the past, and those experiences combined with the looks and cat calls...no thank you. Which is a shame because I would like to see those countries, but I'm too chicken to do it alone. I don't know how bad it is there...any thoughts?
A cousin who travels for work has echoed the experiences of Anna, and said local women will look after you. Another friend who went to Pakistan for work said she was quickly adopted by her host family and they looked out for her and thus didn't have any problems.
Maybe one day we can travel solo and we don't have exhaust ourselves trying to avoid harrassment. Wouldn't it be nice?
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