Im 20, and my mum hates the fact that i love traveling, the reason is so stupid, she thinks im gonna get on drugs, or f**** around or i dont know..
What to do when your parents dont want you to travel?
Reply to this respect as in? I dont think there s nothing to do with respect! My mum s like super duper traditional!
Reply to this Hello and welcome to the Forum,
Not an uncommon problem this - the main reason my parents are not overly encouraging of my travelling is due to safety - and I'm a male and probably double your age! Even though they trust what I do, they do not trust where I go - so it still means there is some suspicion about the whole process.
My solution is this - I explain my position (the safety or otherwise of my destination) and then that is the end of it. Being younger, I think you get more talking to convince you otherwise, being older they know once I've decided on something - no other opinions will be entered into!
In other words, you need to persevere with your travelling and hopefully, they will come to accept what you do - even if they do not agree. There is no easy road unfortunately.
PS: I moved this to General Travel Forum from the European one - more likely to get replies to a general question here.
Reply to this um, depends if you're actually traveling for traveling...
or for the very reasons you listed.
face it, most 20 year olds (and trust me I know since I'm 20 as well) travel to have fun in another country...which means partying and drinking along with the stuff travelers do. I'm sure you're not going for the sole purpose of it, but you're probably going to be partying and letting loose as you're far away from restrictions. And if that's the case, your mom has every reason to not want you to travel...
I guess your only options are to sit down and talk to her...or lie and say you won't party...
Reply to this Hello Childinthewild 😊
I am not sure respect comes into this, or what is implied by respect here. And parents should respect too that you are now an adult....
You are an adult at 20 years old. While it is nice for your parents if you keep in regular contact with them, they no longer have a right to say if you should travel or not, even if you were going to take drugs and f*** around.
Having said that, I do see it from a parents point of view too. They cant help worrying. They have been taking care of you for so long, that it is difficult for them to adjust and realise that this type of care is no longer needed or desirable. It would be wise for them to avoid giving unsolicited advice and/or interfering in your life. I would try to reassure them a little that you know what you are doing and you intend to take good care of yourself, but dont allow them to influence you decision about whether to travel or not.
Mel
Reply to this Try make her understand that you are not doing anything wrong. Although she's trying to be over-protective, she should understand that there is no danger. Oh, and switch the tv channel when news about kidnapped travelers are on.
Reply to this you're a bit right "generationk"! but you know, its normal if you party when you travel, its not even a question, What is bad about partying? I dont need to go traveling for that, i can club anywhere. Obviously im not going for sole purpose but Im not doing drugs or whatever else.
Reply to this What is bad about partying?
We would all like to wrap our kids in cotton wool, but it is not reasonable of parents to expect to be able to do that with adult children. It is not up to parents of a 20 year old to be responsible for her/him, when (s)he is partying. It would be wise of them to back off a bit, and only give advice and help when/if it is solicited.
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