Relationship advice!!!!!

My girlfriend left to go travelling around the world in January, we both agreed that we would stay together because im going out to see her in a couple of weeks. Im worried that she may have changed her mind about being with me and she may no longer see me in the same light. I’ve been travelling before but I know what it’s like to go and come back a different person.

She says that she is still completely in love with me and whenever I bring up the fact that she might not still wanna be with me she gets angry so I quickly change the conversation. I know that im being paranoid but I cant help the way I feel. What would you guys do if you were in my situation?

I trust her when she says she hasn’t been with anyone, and I haven’t so much as looked at another girl since she has gone away. Im worried that ill get out there and it’ll all go tits up.

Any thoughts??
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Skype.

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If you don't have trust you don't have anything. If you have these feelings now then it's probably going to eat away at you more the longer she's away. I think you already know this, hence this post.

So what do you do? Seriously dude you need to have a honest talk with yourself (not her). Be realistic. If you don't trust her, or question whether she still wants to be with you, then you're just going to create bigger problems for your relationship. I think you just need to chill the f*** out a bit. Stop asking her if everything's ok. Stop looking for problems. Stop being high maintenance. Just chill. If she comes back and doesn't want to be with you then there's absolutely nothing you can do about it. Life sucks like that.

Don't worry about something you can't control. Only worry about what you can control - your actions. Putting pressure on her may only create a rift that might not have existed before. Give her a reason to miss you - i.e. be cool, be happy for her adventure, be someone she looks forward to talking to, etc.

Sorry if this sounds negative, but I've been exactly where you are now and I did pretty much what you're doing (from what I've read above). It ended badly and it was all my fault. I pushed her away. I don't want you to make the same mistake I did (saying that, it was ages ago and I really don't give a shit anymore, hehe). Just chill bro. Reply to this

Ah!
I would say "You want to go for a trip, so do I. Bye!"

My wife loves parties and since last year she likes to go to girls-only parties. When I discovered that it was a restaurant and dancing, I was hurt in the beginning. Then I became the 'genius of the day' and yelled cheerily saying "Me too!"

Last December she asked me what I thought about she traveling to Russia with only some girl friends. I replied: "I want the same, but I go south" (Mexico. And I was already fantasizing about tiny bikinis). She did not go.

You know, before I was married, I did what I liked. When we were dating, I knew that those times were over. If my girlfriend would go for a trip with others, then I guess where the relationship stand, not?

Do you really think that she would not take a peek to other guys when she would be gone? If you think so, then you are ignorant.

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