I had a bit of a mixed childhood, born in Canada, Swiss citizenship and spent 15 years in the US (no citizenship). Talk about an identity crisis!
I always felt like an outsider because I just didn't view things the same way. In grade 6, I was the only one in my class who had been outside of North America. We ate different foods, and everyone in my family has a different accent. But as a kid, it didn't bother me. In fact, I was proud to be different. It was only after high-school graduation when I went on a little "Eurotrip" that I felt the identity crisis.
The funny thing was, I was always proud to say I was Swiss as a kid, but I certainly stick out like a sore thumb when I visit my grand parents. Everyone in the village knows who I am, but I don't speak Swiss German so I can't communicate with them very easily. And very often, they don't understand how I could have the passport and not the language.
As a kid, I never really identified with my Canadian roots, because we just didn't visit that often. We went to Switzerland every few years to visit family.
When I moved to Montreal, I finally found "home". I found the place where I fit in. So now, I identify myself as Canadian instead of Swiss, even when traveling in Switzerland.
Mell - in raising your daughter, it's great that she's already speaking the 3 languages!! 😊 Don't let her lose them! As a kid, I lost my French. I blame that on my parents, who became frustrated with me always answering in English, and they ended up switching to English entirely. Ah, the trials of parenting in another country!
But as she gets older, make sure you don't give up in your quest to have her be trilingual, even if she seems to pick only 1 language to respond in! As long as you keep speaking it, she'll have the ear for it and won't lose it completely. 😊
(I did relearn my French by the way...fluent now!)