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Female sex tourists: Do they exist?

Why would the long standing gate keepers of sex suddenly decide to pay the gate toll? Have you ever met a female sex tourist? Women, have you ever been a sex tourist? If not, would you consider it?

15 years ago, March 26th 2009 No: 21 Msg: #67079 Delete Edit

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Isn't it disgusting how some people actually have sex outside of their country of birth with people they are not married to?
Bali should be excluded as it is the number one sex tourist place for Australian women. Reply to this

15 years ago, March 26th 2009 No: 22 Msg: #67111 Delete Edit

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Isn't it disgusting how some people actually have sex outside of their country of birth with people they are not married to?

Is it?
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15 years ago, March 26th 2009 No: 23 Msg: #67113 Delete Edit

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2 posts merged into this topic from: Are Lonely Planet excluding some locations for moral reasons? Reply to this

15 years ago, March 26th 2009 No: 24 Msg: #67151 Delete Edit

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Yes, there are Female Sex Tourists. They may not call themselves a "sex tourist" because for them it is only helping a nice person out who just happens to need money for some emergency or necessity. Sometimes they want a man to accompany them on shopping forays or someone to accompany them when they go out for a couple drinks. Some do just want a stud for the night and then it is out the door senor!

I have met a few women that actually mentioned having "male" friends in Thailand. They mention how "nice" he is, how "helpful" he was. Then they mention how sorry they felt for his children who did not have good clothes for school so she bought some (ka ching, the sound an old cash register makes,) they they mention how bad his teeth looked so they paid a dentist to fix him up (ka ching,) or they want to put him in some good shoes and clothes, this way he can get rid of the flip flops (ka ching.) Maybe they buy him a watch so he will show up on time when she wants him. She pays for the meals, drinks and transportation because she understands that he has to keep his money to support his family! Women probably fall for more sob stories then the men do, probably too sensitive and caring. With men it is simply a financial transaction, no different than buying a can of beans in a store.

One lady noticed (on another board) that one hometown I put down was around 5 miles from where she grew up. Every now and then she sends an email update or asks a question. She has a Thai boyfriend that she sends money to so he doesn't have to starve (ka ching) or he can help his family's farm out. She is married, but she says he husband doesn't care and she has an open marriage and can't wait until she can return to Thailand again because she has so many things she picked up for him (ka ching.)

So many women ask for "good" massage places. If a guy asks for a "good" massage place tongues wag, eyes wink, suspecting the worse. With a woman seeking out "good" massage places (where some guy rubs his strong, masculine, oiled hands sensuously all over her for an hour or two for only 200 baht) that is not paying for it either, just good for her health, like a doctor!

Some tourist couples come to Thailand and seek out threesomes with a local Thai bar girl just to add some spice to their marriage. What ever rocks your boat!

Have (safe) fun!

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15 years ago, March 26th 2009 No: 25 Msg: #67154 Delete Edit

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"Isn't it disgusting how some people actually have sex outside of their country of birth with people they are not married to?"

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This is nothing new or even recent! Even back in 1961 there was a movie named "The Roman Spring of Mrs. Stone" which delves into the services of gigolos.

Gigolos have been around for a long time!

It is not unusual for rich women to have younger lovers. Aging movie actress, now deceased, Mae West was always seen with younger men she paid for. She is often quoted for saying "it's not the men in my life that counts-it's the life in my men!"

It is nothing new for women to seek out men overseas, Paris and Rome come to mind as destinations for the lovelorn, why not other destinations?

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15 years ago, March 26th 2009 No: 26 Msg: #67156 Delete Edit

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1 post was deleted from this thread. Some of the language in it was a little too rough for the general public. 😉

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15 years ago, March 26th 2009 No: 27 Msg: #67157 Delete Edit

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I think that female sex tourist are fantasy of every man 😊 I have doubt that they have exist 😊

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15 years ago, March 26th 2009 No: 28 Msg: #67158 Delete Edit

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I think that female sex tourist are fantasy of every man 😊 I have doubt that they have exist 😊

That was my thought too. Somehow, paying for romance defeats the purpose of it. Unless these women manage to decieve themselves enough to believe that they are a doing a good deed as Sir Halbert points out, rather than paying for romance and sex.
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15 years ago, March 26th 2009 No: 29 Msg: #67183 Delete Edit

heraclio
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Excuse me but there is a BIG difference in paying for s*ex and romance. Prostitution - wherever in the world - is simply a financial transaction between two people and not necesarily bad in its very nature. Real romance - loving one another with romantic feelings of being in love - on the other hand has nothing to do with prostitution and I seriously doubt it can posibly be for sale at all, not in its sincerity anyway.

And YES female s*x tourism does excist, older European women often with fat bellies and even fatter wallets walking the beaches south of Banjul/Gambia with young muscular local males accompanying their every step.

A bit like their male counterpart in Pattaya or Patong Beach/Thailand.

I could go on excusing this whole sorry issue by pointing out the absolute poverty most of the female members of the Isaan - a Thai province in the north - come from, how prostitution has been a cornerstone of the Thai economy for ages, how these sad creatures of the night - Isaan females, remember? - have come to the Thai farang beaches with innocent hearts full with hope of falling in love with an European male and ended up addicted to booze, Yaa-Baa and the like, selling their bodies to overs*xed european males....but I believe it is everybody's own opinion.

As for the member Panmu....I am not really sure how to translate your statement "Isn't it disgusting how some people actually have sex outside of their country of birth with people they are not married to?
Bali should be excluded as it is the number one sex tourist place for Australian women." Sorry but I don't see what country or place of birth has got to do with one's choice of bed partners, whether it be prostitution or romance.

Hans from Amsterdam.

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15 years ago, March 26th 2009 No: 30 Msg: #67185 Delete Edit

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Excuse me but there is a BIG difference in paying for s*ex and romance.

Generally the exchange that keeps both genders happy is sex for men and romance for women. Women are generally in need of more romance, while they get sex offers in abundance. No way they would want to pay for sex, in my opinion. But paying for romantic attention in a round about enough way that allows them to pretend that the romance does not have a price tag attached seems like a possibility. So she sugar coats it in concern for the guys kids or something else.....

And YES female s*x tourism does excist, older European women often with fat bellies and even fatter wallets .....

Even those are likely getting plenty of offers from European men. Would horney 19 year olds notice things like age and a bit too much body fat? And the European men who are also past their best looking age and single again cant all be going to Thailand to get some action, can they?

A bit like their male counterpart in Pattaya or Patong Beach/Thailand.

That may be a point. Men have been doing it for so long and seem to be happy about it so maybe we should try it out too, in order to prove our equality or maybe to get revenge for how casually the men in our lives sleep around without any emotional attachments or relationships being formed with sexual partners while breaking the hearts of the women who love them? Not what I want to do, but I have heard it put like that from some women.
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15 years ago, March 27th 2009 No: 31 Msg: #67298 Delete Edit

heraclio
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Maybe women paying for s*x get some sort of self esteem out of the deal, or a feeling of dominance over men.

I've noticed the women on this forum topic express their opinion from a western female point of view - no pun intended here, just a personal observation - which differs greatly from the avarage oriental female mind and therefore from the avarage oriental female point of view on matters concerning s*x and romance, family planning, friendship and feelings of love.

And NO I don't believe all single Farang men go to Thailand for prostitution and "some action". Those that do I can recognise from the proverbial mile distance. Most single farang men are happy enough to meet local Asian lady-friends - not very difficult in most of Southeast Asia - but don't actively seek out the infamous prostitution scêne.

Hans from Amsterdam.
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15 years ago, March 27th 2009 No: 32 Msg: #67304 Delete Edit

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I've noticed the women on this forum topic express their opinion from a western female point of view...

Is there a real difference in how women are around the world or are the differences due to their responses to circumstances such as economics, education, politics etc of the particular country they live in?

Also, it would be interesting to hear what in your opinion is the western female point of view. Reply to this

15 years ago, March 27th 2009 No: 33 Msg: #67308 Delete Edit

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I believe that those women think little of themselves. In order to build themselves up they are paying for sex. The only problem is, their answer is actually making it worse for themselves. In then end they are much smaller and have no respect for who they are as a person. Reply to this

15 years ago, March 27th 2009 No: 34 Msg: #67311 Delete Edit

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The only problem is, their answer is actually making it worse for themselves.

I tend to think that too. There are a lot of people who dont know what they want or need to feel good. Reply to this

15 years ago, March 27th 2009 No: 35 Msg: #67316 Delete Edit

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Hi,
I was joking!
Who cares ?
Of course there are so called sex tourists of all four sexes.
But what is it to do with us?
I am not concerned about other peoples sex lives or hobbies or habits as long as they don't try to moles me.
I would never travel just for sex myself. but of course sometimes I do have it.
Though more in the old days when it was safer.
The best thing about travel for me is that I get to meet all sorts of people that i would otherwise not meet at home.
I make friends from all walks of life and get opportunities that i would not otherwise get.
I love to experience different cultures.
However I wont eat things I don't want to just to be polite.
As for pay for pleasure , we all do it for what we want in one way or another.
Lets not go through life judging others and looking down on them just because they act differently or have different tastes.
The only thing I resent is that it is always men getting the bad press while in reality as some of us know , women are the same.
Anyhow Hope you all have a nice holiday and just remember to be careful.
Oh an interesting thing i saw in Chiang Mai a few years ago, was a fat old white woman renting small girls for her sexual pleasure. Yes a female lesbian pedo. I wish I could have made a video of it and showed the world
Some decades ago I almost stopped visiting Thailand because of the bad press men were getting, we were basically all accused of being sex tourists in search of every vice imaginable.
When I was young I did think females were different to males as society wanted us to believe but later I learned that it just isn't true. Females want sex as much as males do.
Anyhow i have had enough of this subject. As I said it really isn't any of my business is it? Reply to this

15 years ago, March 27th 2009 No: 36 Msg: #67321 Delete Edit

heraclio
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Off course their is a real difference in how women are around the world - as well as in men by the way - and YES they are brought about by their responses to circumstances like the ones you mentioned....it is called CULTURE.

Being brought up by strong religious catholic people from the south of Holland, my parents used to tell me and my brothers "don't get hooked into marriage by the first lady coming your way, enjoy your youth and going through several girlfriend is a sure sign of being a real man.

My one and only sister got a quite different message along "find yourself a loving husband and soon instead of sleeping around because then you'll be considered a slut".

In some countries I have been to the s*xual moral is quite a bit different from the Western one and will naturally have its way on people's behaviour.

In my humble opinion in a country with a free s*xual moral like Thailand - for example - prostitution is more easily accepted - be it male or female - and s*x and love not necessarily one and the same.

Hans from Amsterdam.

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15 years ago, March 27th 2009 No: 37 Msg: #67322 Delete Edit

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Heraclio I think you are too rough with your words 😊

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15 years ago, March 27th 2009 No: 38 Msg: #67325 Delete Edit

heraclio
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Really????? I thought I was just participating in a public debate that obviously seems to pick people's interest considering this threat keeps going on and on.

It is not like I advocate the big prostitution scêne in this world or Thailand in particular as positive....having seen an army of s*x starved European men with local women - the sisterhood of the Isaan clans with very little say in the matter due to starving children at home who need to be fed, poor undereducated ladies with hardly any dough who have to sell their bodies to - more often then not - fat bellied alcoholics from the rich West, men who have absolutely no RESPECT for these poor creaturesa of the night, who talk about them like they are inanimate objects....I think that is ROUGH!!!

That aside....rereading my own words in this threat I fail to see where I went rough.....mind to enlighten me?

Hans from Amsterdam

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15 years ago, March 27th 2009 No: 39 Msg: #67334 Delete Edit

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Thing of it is heraclio - this is not normal behavior for females in any culture. Females that behave like this have had something happen to them to put them in that mindset. Most prostitutes were raped by their father. If you look into the backgrounds of these women, you will find something of that nature in most of them. Reply to this

15 years ago, March 27th 2009 No: 40 Msg: #67337 Delete Edit

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Lets not go through life judging others and looking down on them just because they act differently or have different tastes.

No judgements from me. Just tying to understand. 😊

The only thing I resent is that it is always men getting the bad press...

Really? What type of bad press do you resent them getting? Not anything on this thread surely, since the thread is about women?

I wish I could have made a video of it and showed the world...

Did you at least report it to the official organisation that is against pedophilia, even if you didnt have a video camera handy to show the world with. (off the topic at bit, but if anyone wants to have the name of that organisation, I will look it up for you)

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