Any advice from anyone who has travelled with a partner or general tips to get the most out of the shared experience.
Hey I\'m 18 and so is my bf, we\'re both on our gap year atm and plan to go travelling around SE Asia for 3months however for some reason I\'m a bit nervous about travelling with him. When i talk to people and say i\'m going travelling with my bf alot of replies are you\'re brave.. :s. Now the thought of travelling with him is lovely and i cannot wait to have that shared experience but i cannot deny that there is a small aspect of worry. For example i\'ll being seeing him everyday won\'t i get irratated by him or will we get irratated by eachother? Or temptation, that was mentioned in the blog from the independant travellers, does it mean temptation with meeting other people? I\'m sure my worries are quite trivial esperically once i\'m there but it\'s annoyingly bothering me. So does anybody have any tips, advice or experiences with this?
Reply to this Hi Tara,
You are welcome in SE Asia!!
Its nice place to visit.
do not worry to travel with u r bf in SE Asia.
On the contrary I will sugeest u its always better to travel with u r male companion in SE Asia.
for single female traveller that too 18 yrs old its can be a unsafe in some parts of SE Asia.
Unlike Europe When u say SE Asia there are different countries with different cultures and traditions.
While travelling in SE Asia take care of local traditions and their concerns.
If u could tell which countries u r traveeling may be I can give u some tips.
Till then take care
Bye
Amit
Reply to this Hello Tara 😊
I have had very positive experiences with travelling with boyfriends. In my opinion they make the best travel companions. We know each others likes and dislikes well and have discovered each others personal space requirements. And the night time company is a real bonus.
Mel
Reply to this Hey Tara.
I think that is a great place to travel but I have studied it and everyone who goes seems to return happy. However like "amitlovetoexplore" mentioned there are some dangers of gangs and kidnaping on the streets due to the demand for money in some of the poorer economic parts of SE Asia. I know for a fact that you would gain more knowledge and meet many new faces if you travel alone because there is no one beside you to depend on and answer your questions for you. If you plan to travel with your companion you will be safer because traveling in numbers is safer than traveling alone, however in my opinion it would take away form your travel experience. Meeting new people, asking questions, backpacking through a country or even a few towns, residing with villagers and learning first-hand is to me, what traveling is all about. However if you do chose to travel by yourself you should raise your awareness on your surroundings and the dangers you could potentially be facing when you are touring SE Asia. If you are aware of what happens in SE Asia and you avoid the dangerous locations I am sure it would make for an amazing experience. Thanks.
JDuval
Reply to this We got all the 'you're brave' comments and the raised eyebrows but really enjoyed, stayed together and got married last week. You'll know by the end of 3 months living in each others back pockets whether you're right for each other. You'll probably both want to see and do similar things and there will be more room for give and take - making it less awkward than it could be travelling with a friend. If you do want a little time apart you can always split for the day but have a little task such as - you have x baht to get each other a present. The longest we were apart was 30 minutes and we loved every minute that we were away.
Reply to this It can go both ways. You might indeed end up splitting up, it happens, but if you don't you come out of it stronger. If you don't travel with him you might end up splitting up because you find somebody else along the way and the temptation as you call it will be to great. Because it is a fact that you meet a lot of interesting people when you are traveling and the temptation is there at all times. It all depends on you. I would say, travel with him, don't worry to much about it. Chances are you will love it and come out stronger. And this way you will never be lonely! As for me, I have done both... In my case, traveling without my partner turned out to be the wrong thing to do. But than again, maybe it was bound to happen whatever the case. C'est la vie as the French say...
Reply to this If you haven't travelled with your partner, than you will never if he is right for you.
I've travelled heaps with mine and it has actually made our relationship much stronger because as you say, you see them everyday, at your worst and your best. So you really get to know them plus share experiences which are unique and personal.
Reply to this Thanks for the replies everyone.. I'm sure it will be fine but i suppose its better to consider what could happen rather then being in romantic bubble about it all, though deep down i couldn't imagine going with anyone else 😊!
Our plan so far is to see Vietnam, Cambodia and Thailand with a guided tour lasting just over three 3 weeks, we're going to book that with the company tucan travel. Then the rest of our route isn't really set in stone but we've been talking about seeing the Phillipines, Laos because lots of people have said it's wonderful and possibly Malaysia if our money stretches us that far. Any other lovely places to see? Do you think its important to have a structured route set out?
Reply to this Have a loose route in your mind but the flexibilty to alter it if you want to. We had no plans to visit Indonesia but saw a cheap flight while we were in Kuala Lumpur and decided to just go for it. The best parts of your trip are often the most spontaneous ones. That said, have a look at what you'd like to see and do the most and plan a loose itinerary around that.
Reply to this I'm sure it will be fine but i suppose its better to consider what could happen rather then being in romantic bubble about it all, though deep down i couldn't imagine going with anyone else 😊!
You might both discover that you love travel and having something like that to share could enhance your relationship. That is how it was with the first boyfriend I travelled with. We used to wonder if our relationship would be quite as good without the travel stimulating it.
Before you go, you and your boyfriend could discuss what you both want to get out of travel and if you will do it all together, or spend some time appart doing things or going places separately. That is what me and my ex did before we set off. We decided that if we discovered that we had differences in opinions about what we want to do we would do some things separately. We didnt do much appart but now and again my ex would decide he wanted to climb up a mountain or something and I would hang out in the town reading and relaxing while he was doing it. I think having such a discussion beforehand may reduce the chances of conflict.
Reply to this There's a saying that goes something like "you don't truely know a person until you travel with them." It is one I fully agree with, whether it be a boyfriend or a friend... traveling together takes your relationship to a whole new level! Good luck and have fun!
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