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Published: December 12th 2005
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Kewe
Kewé, at 25, was the youngest we talked to. She has two boys, around ages 2 and 4. She lives in Dakar, in a different house from her 45-year-old co-wife. Her 50-year-old husband spends the week with Kewé and the weekend with his first wife. According to Kewé the first wife hates her and is still angry with their husband. I asked Kewé why she chose to marry a man who already had a wife. She said, “I loved him; he loved me; and God allows men to have many wives. So we got married.” After lunch, we were sitting around under a shade tree with all the women we’d spent our visit with. We began asking about sex and marriage, and although they laughed at us a lot, they answered most of our questions. I was surprised to find that most of them belonged to polygamous marriages.
Since 92% of this country is Muslim, so I should probably mention Islam’s position on polygamy. Prophet Mohammed said that a man can have up to four wives as long as he treats them equally. This makes sense, because the Quran was written in the context of war, when there was a shortage of young men. The Prophet later admonished his followers, saying they were incapable of treating their wives fairly. Feminists take this to mean men should only take one wife. Traditionalists say the Prophet is just reemphasizing the importance of equal treatment. So, basically, both advocates and opponents of polygamy use the holy text to support their views.
Anyway, back to the village. I’d like to introduce you to 5 women I talked to. Each ones story is the caption to her picture. All of these women were really nice to us; they called
Aisatou
Aisatou is an amazing woman. She’s in her early 50’s and delivers every child born in Mbamb. She was the first woman I talked to about co-wives. She said she had twoone is in a nearby village and the other is in Kaolack. She didn’t give an opinion on the practice, but from her expression and tone, we all got the impression that she wasn’t very happy about the situation. After the funeral, we got to meet one of her co-wives. They seemed perfectly amicable, and when I asked Aisatou about the relationship, she told me they were friends. Their husband spends a few days a week at each of their homes. us their daughters.
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