Apologies for the very long note.
I’ve changed my nickname from heavy hearted (as I was feeling when I started this forum subject) to shanti om (peace).
I just want to thank you all for your time in replying to me, I am very grateful to everyone.
To give you a bit more background information, my husband and I originally planned to travel together, I was saving before I met him and continued to do so (still am). My husband then hurt his back and found that he couldn’t do the things he used to do, this was in conjunction with the house prices falling (we bought our first home when prices were sky high). I was saving for our RTW trip and my husband was looking after the mortgage etc.
One night he admitted that he couldn’t come due to his bad back (painful disc issues) and the fact that he felt completely tied down financially and that in truth it was my dream to travel for a whole year more than his. Although he enjoys travelling, he would rather do it for 2-3 weeks several times a year as he is very adverse to taking financial risks, it’s the way he has been brought up. I have been brought up to be careful with money but to experience life before it’s too late and I am highly aware of human mortality and no regrets and taking calculated risks. Almost as soon as me and my bro were born, my parents would take us on caravanning trips all around the UK and France and abroad (and are keen walkers) where as his parents have never been on a holiday, but instead have never left the area that they have lived in for 40 years and in truth have wrapped up their children in cotton wool!!!
Anyway, earlier this year, my husband and I went to a travel show as I am going on a Dragoman trip and I wanted to check out the truck that was at the show. Without any persuasion from me
my husband (with passion in his eyes) declared that he wanted to come to Africa with me for 2 months and a half months as it was a place he had always wanted to experience. I was so shocked and didn’t believe him at first. We have booked it and we are going and he is leaving his job which is far from easy for him to do as he has climbed the career ladder to get where he is and will be taking a salary decrease when he starts work after he gets back. He is also joining me to learn how to dive in the Philippines or Indonesia at the end of my trip for three weeks.
I had a heart to heart with my husband the other night and he said that I had to follow my heart and do what I had to do otherwise I would regret it and that he fully supports my travelling. He said that things would be fine and that we would get through it no matter what.
I initially decided to go for a year but reduced it to six months as my husband is now coming to Africa.
I have now decided not to go for 5 months straight but to go for a month at a time and come back for a few weeks (not because he asked me to). I don’t want anything to ever damage our marriage which is so sacred and special to us. The longest I’ll be away from him will be two months when I will be trekking in Nepal and India.
I want to experience travelling with my husband (my favourite travel partner ever) and I know that if I did go for 5-6 months straight, I would be utterly miserable and may even cut the time short and head back. We have been to many places together already and we will go to many more. When I do go alone (I went to Jordan a couple of years ago) I wished he was there to experience the beauty of the country and its people.
I am totally addicted to travelling but also need to take care of the most important man I have in my life (aside from my dad!). I feel better now I know that I will be happier touching base with my husband and home in between my trips. It will also give me the opportunity to do lots of reading about the places that I will be travelling to and I may even start to write a book!
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