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Firstly I would just like to say that everything I write in my blogs are my own personal thoughts and opinions and I do not and have never had the intention to offend or force my beliefs on anyone. I am a person and always have been a perso to say "you believe what you wont and I belive what I wont and even if my views are different I will always respect yours! Everyone is free to think and believe what they wish!" Every word I write here is my own way of thinking and whenever I mention England I use it in regards to my own personal upbringing in the uk and obvisouly not that of the whole English population!.
Ok so Mario and I are very similar to one another but yet have been brought up in complete opposite ways!.
Iv been brought in the 1st world and he in the third world but yet we both have had the opportunity to experience eachothers worlds!!!
Canada is very much like England its a first world country ....... life I feel is no more than work all week
then waste all your wages to get pissed over the weekend.......get it on with as many people as you can......then start all over again on Monday......Theres no culture....its all about what you have and dont have and what you want next..........external apparence counts for everything.......compertitions to see who can look the most riddiculous!.......the people dont speak you can pass the whole day with out a single person saying hello to you......its all rush rush rush sorry dont have time!.
However I now know and believe me there is mre to life than this!!!! and I knew that I wasnt going to like Canada as my image was correct.....its the same consitution as England and therefore follow all the same rules. I dont regret coming here as Mario and I are now able to make our long thoughtout dream a reality!!!!......as here we earn 3.20 per hour which is terms of England is nothing....less than half what I could make there but you have to take into consideration that the cost of living is alot lower!..............theres no place in the world that has a high rate income and a low cost of living....it just dosnt work lke that although we would
My Birthday Mirror MessageWe Always leave messages for eachother on the bathroom miror with my lipstick....yes I have none left now!
wish it to be.
However looking on the other point of view 3.20 per hour for Mario is alot of money he would in mexico normally earn this for half a days work.....!!!
So here with our wages we are able to do things we couldnt in mexico such as rent an apartment which is something wonderful for us both and allows us to feel more life a "firm" couple! we have our own room with a big double bed our own privacy which is what i was missing alot in Mexico.......as we didnt have enough in order to rent so therefore were living with his mam and family which was a wonderful experience and they all made me very welcome and at home however I was mising that aspect of having our own privacy and being able to be more myself like I can in our home now.
We rent a really nice studio apartment with his cousin Christan we all get along like a proper little family, weekly we go to the supermarket and do our big shop, we all cook and eat togther which are moments that sometimes you dont appreciate at the time but are always
the ones you look back on with happy memories. Mario works at 7.30 in the morning so leaves the house at 6.30 we wake up togther, I help him get ready.....make his breakfast and get his lunch ready to take to work.....I always by him sweets as he has such a sweet tooth and we need to fatten him up as hes very thing so i get his lunch togther and his book to practice English or the ipod which we take turns to take. When he goes it depends sometimes if Im tired i go back to bed or if not i clean found the house, we both go to the laundrette, and we both cook, the other day I cooked him yorkshire puddings!!!!!!!!! yeh they turned out very well i was so happy and he actually really like them!!! which I was very suprised about as he normally only likes spicy foods! but he liked them so much that he now asks me to make them for him to take to work!!! yeh :-) These are the wonderfull things that i love and will cherish for ever as they were things I couldnt do in Mexico as it
wasnt my home......his mam got up in the morning and attended to him, made his breakfast, lunch, did his laundry etc so I was just aside.....so these aspects i really enjoy for tis moment in my life.................although I know im not only for this!!!! as many latin amercian mothers constantly tell me that im lazy and need to learn how to cook, clean and look after my man........" excuse me! I know how to cook and clean and if I wont to do it I will......BUT just beauce im a woman dose not mean im only usefull for this! we both do our part in our realtionship.......mario cooks i wash the dishes, we go to the laundrette togther, we take turns to clean the room etc........Our cultures are very very different but we get along perfectly as we both know how to respect and adapt to one anothers way of living which is something amzing with in itself!.
So each week Mario and I put 100 pounds in our money pig as we both have very similar dreams and love eachother dearly and want to achieve them togther....................we dont wont to coninue with this life.....work, drink and nothing else no
with both know theres more to life than that.....................its beautiful as Mario when he first arrived here everything new for him...for the first few weeks he enjoyed being able to have these luxarys......being able to go out and buy a new pair of shoes ith just one days pay!!! as in Mexico he could never do that and in fact would'nt dream of it....but yes he did experiment and enjoyed it but also relized that this isnt everyting. (I mean dont get me wrong there are many forgienrs here who really like this lifestyle nd being able to earn more......Christian marios cousin being one of therm......hes staying here and is appling for is residency here which is fine and will be perfect for him.....he likes it here and will in a few years if he fullfills all the requests he wil be given a candien passport which will instantly open the doors to the world for him, as before i used to take my nationality for granted but now I appreciate it dearly as I can go anywhere in the world no problems and if visas a requied i just need to apply and i will be granted them no
problem but Mario for example being a mexican national is a complete other story! I mean where like a few hours away from new york and we cant even go for a weekend trip as he needs a visa which is very difficult to recieve they dont just hand them out like sweets no way!. Yes so this will be perfect for Christan as he enjoys this life and wonts to stay here to recieve is residency and i wish him good luck! however evryones tastes are different and Mario and I dont like this kind of life.......its ok as yes the life is difficult in the third world but you are taught the values in life which for me are the ones that matter............being a united family always therefore one another, to be greatfull for everything you recieve... weathe it be food, schooling, clothes opportunites to study in university etc .
So Mario and I for the first time made a plan togther...............its amzing how much we have become togther just from having our independence like I described above! As now all we talk about are our ambitons, goals in life that we are going to and will
achieve, we talk about marriage and even children which for me s something like out of this world! especially with Mario as before it just seemed like soemthing so far away and impossible that we didnt even bring up the subject never mind plan it!!!! However us coming here and being able to live, work togther and most importanly save we are given the hope that yes we can do it!. We both love eachother incredibly....really im so lucky to have him hes an amzing wonderfull person who in turn also teaches me to appreciate the small things in life which oftern i forget and allow them to slip my mind. I would love one day to become his wife and make a family with him....I know its something really foward to think but I believe these feelings are just natural if your really in love with a person. Looking back on it now I think when i first went to Mexico to visit him It wa just lust.....I had a fabulous time with him in Peru and wonted to continue this adventure with him but when I arrived and things were diffrent ......there he had to work, i wsa
living with his family, i didnt have my privacy, i was robbed of all backpackers treats....staying in hostels meeting new people, learning, moving around etc everythig that i strive for! So back then my mind was always in travelling and Mario knew it.......i got excited more abou planning my next trip than spending time with him and my thoughts and plans were all about travelling and just my own individual plans....never did we think let alone discuss plans togther!! from this i was always in doubt wether i loved him of not as I always wonted to live to travel but something always daragged me back to him :-)
However now I know and mario too feels that im in ove with him as he after my 4 month apart from him travelling in cuba and mexico being free able to do what i wont travel, get it on with who i wonted just free no restictions......was the key! it was what I needed becuase alothough I had a lot of fun and apprciated all of my trip and never stopped thinking about Mario and relizing that it wasnt everything!!!!! I was fully satisfied! i was missing something which was
indeed the love of my life Mario. Now he knows I lve him as my mind is no longer on it own!!!.............I now speak with us, and our instead of me, mine and my!!!! now its our future, our plans. I very starnge example which made me relize was we were sat eating breakfast one saturday morning and Mario turned to me and said "you love me Lindsey and I know it, I feel it so much now becuase you have changed everything!!!! your ways your thoughts everything!!!!....he pointed to the family size bottle of ketchup o the table and a little fragil glass next to it.......he said before you were the ketchup very big and strong.....wouldnt let me in....always on you own within your own future plans......BUT now you like the little fragil glass.....what ever i say you are senstive and become jealous, your very attached to me, you do thing you know i love, you choose,....no becuase i tell you but becuase you wont to...to come home to me rather thatn go out with friends and most of all you now let me into your life and into your future plans!"""
WOW this was so powerfull it brought
tears to my eyes becuase everything he said his true ......before i was so far away from him very cold and didnt allow him into my life it was just me...! however ive opened now and its now us.....im so in love with him that ive converted from a big fat plastic bottle of ketchup that is you throw it against the wall, jump on it , anything.....it wont break!!! ............. to a little fragil glass that if you miss treat it it will break instantly!
So we now have our plan togther which just this thought for us both is amazing!!!! that weve both come so far that we can actually make plans togther its no longer so far out of reach.......!! and weve established that we dont like the ways of living of these first world countires........SO the other day we bought our tickets to colombia and have planned throughly.....we ont have a lot of mony infact we have nothing just enough to bue a tent and meterials such as threads, braclets, beads, seeds, fruit etc to sell as were gonna travel in this style.....hitch hiking and selling anthing we can in order to make money to
eat and pay for the camp ground. This is all I have ever wanted.......!!!! one to travel with Mario.......I cant wait as we are going to fly togther!!!!! this in itself is going to be amzing!!! as it alway him coming to get me from the airport or taking me to say bye so this time its gonna be wondefull............we fly from Mexico city on the 27th of August as we both have return flights back to Mexico so were going to return there to visit his family and friends and from then off we go.
The person im becoming is now allowing me to get alot closer to achieveing my dreams of helping unpreviliged children as now im going one step futher aa i believe i will be able to help more if I have actually felt what they feel every day as I have never been with out anthing in my whole life.....have always been able to buy, eat what ever i like ive never been restricted of the basic human rights however now im going to experience what it feels like to work all day for very little which isnt even enough to eat never mind
by luxurys....feel what its like to be starving hungry but yet not have any mony to buy food so I have to go to bed hungry, feel what its like to sleep on the hard clod floor rather than a big soft matress, what its like to be dirty and smelly not having the opportunity to wash me never mind my clothes on a daily basis, the feeling how look at others who have these basic human rights and having to ask them to help me. Some people who read this might think " what ......why dose this girl from ENGLAND! who can just work for eight hours a day and have enough to eat very richly, buy what she wonts, rent an apartment, have a car, money for a social life, buy good expenisve designer clothes, have matching shoes and bags etc.....BUT HANG ON A SECOND!!!!....................ive had all of this and i wasnt happy!!! i was always missing something i didnt feel fullfilled i always wonted more and became in a never ending vicious circle...................I had my car, house, lived in London with my girl friends, dressed beautiuflly eveyday but yet was not fullfilled it dint count!!......in he back
of my mind i always had my dreams of travelling and help the poor and now ive started i feel im getting closer and closer in to finding what im always searching for. When i was in south amercia i was the happiest ive ever been and all i had was my backpack......2 pairs of jeans and few tops, underwear and nothing else and i dint feel deprived of anything!
Mario on the other hand.....literatly is on the other side.....he was one of these children who i wont to help...he and his family were very poor as his father abanded his mother when he was like 10 so she was left to raise her three children alone which is very difficult never mind in a thrid world country..........so he knows whats its life to sleep on the hard cold floor and oftern sleeps on the floor to remember and to feel how many children are feeling today, he knows what its like to be hungry but yet not have anything to eat, he told me him, his brother and sister had to share one piece of bread between them. Mario has worked from a very young age...selling braclets in
school and playing the drum in the street to make some money to help his mother.
What amzing is that Mario was at the bottom and is now living in the first world....hes here and something ill never forget was when he said....."you know how amzing it felt to by you these white sheets so we can sleep in togther in our own room".......things he would only dream of buyning in Mexico.
Im from the first world and have had everything but yet experienced whats it like in the third world and i know whats my prefrence......as with Mario hes from the thrid world and grown up having nothing but yet had the chance to experience living in the first world and being able to have wahtever he wonts and he knows his prefrence too!
we wont to help imprivilged children......a smile will be brought to our face and our bodies filled with happiness from seeing a small child happily drawing with meterails wever given him rather than buying ourselves a new top!
weve both said that if we are fortunate and stay togther and achieve all our plans to get married and have children we would much prefer to
bring them up in Mexico rather than in England.......as they will have the advantage when ther older to go to the uk of were ever they wish as they will have uk passports and speak bith english and spainsh but they will have the groundings of a third world country to believe in the most important things in life are not meterial things!
A quick update on what ive been up to:
So at the moment where working all we can in order to save up. I work in a Labenese cafe/resturant its very easy....I cool Labenese plates such as kebabs, hummous, pitas etc aso cafe and shisha (nahyla) which is a smoking tradition strong in the middle east............its like huge ornament type thing which is filled with water at the bottom the at the top there aromatic tobbacco rapped in foil which is then smoked through a connecting pipe which is shared amongst friends. Its cool and im learning alot about the Labenese culture.....they are very serious and hard people....I suppose its normal considering the way there brougt up and intrduced to view life.....we have arbaic tv at work...i understand nothing but jst from seeing the images
of smoke everything grey, soliders, people running and horrific pictures of blown up corps is enought to tell me everything. However they are very generous people.....they always have alot of money as it normal to open up business in their culture....by boss always gives me things....tips, all the food i wont even im allowed to bring food home for Mario, he sells juice so he gave us a big box full of can of fresh guava jucie its great for us as we can save more1 also its fab cause I earn alot of tips!!!! yeh. They are also teaching me some arabic...basic things such as hello, thanks, how are you, i love you etc and how to write my name in arbic. However i dont like my hours as i work in the eveing and mario works in the day so we dont get to see eachother oftern......but we have to just stick it out for one month then we will be togther everyday i our trip yeh!
So I went to school for 1 month and completed a intesive french langage course......so now I can speak basic french i can understand alot more than i can say
as its very similar to spainsh but as gose with everything practice make perfect!!!.
Today is my birthday, and I didnt expect anythng really......as mario and christan both start work very early in the morning then when they come home i go to work, but when i arrived home last night at about 1 am it was very starnge as the door to the living room was locked which I need to pass through to get to the toilet and then i went to our room and it was locked to hummmm how starnge!!! then i hard the lock unbolt so i entered the living room and there ws mario, christan and his girlfriend Ana from El salvador as there with ballons and banners saying bonne fete...happy birthday in french which a cake and presens for me....oh i was so happy and more cause i didnt expect anything i just assumed mario would be a sleep!
so it was wonderful they sand me "las mananitas" happy birthday in spainsh and then we parted the cake yummmm also with hot chocloate...the one maro and I love "abuelita grandma en spainsh hummmm.
Then when we went to bed i said thanks
then mario opened our room and the whole bed and floor were coverd in red and white ballons!!!! ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh it was the best i dived on them it was beautiful and with strawberries and chocolate like i asked mario to buy me one day :-) and a card filled with beautifull words from mario. I was so happy what i lovely suprise i love my boyfriend im so lucky to have him and to share yet another birthday with him and hope that there will be many more to come togther.
Ive just went to our letter box and it was filled with cards from all my family, emails from my friends and card mind on the computer with my friend.
Im loved very much in this world and i say thankyou for that.
Im working tonight but I have today free so im off to the center to buy our south amercian guide book yeh im so excited! i love my life, im very happy.
"life is not about finding yourself......its about creating yourself!"
So we have our flights to Bogota, Colombia on the 27th of August so im now going to change the name of my
blogg and have it as a joint account with Mario......so updates will be in both spainsh and english as his family cant speak english neither is friends only one. So we will be filling you in on our south amercian advunture see how far we get with no money....or plan is to help on the way and reach ushia.....the end of the world"!!!! wish us luck!
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