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 Kerfuffle Juggy Post Count: 47 Msg: #1 137 days ago, July 3rd 2009 | I truly want to be a person that doesn't have himself tied down to a single place, but its hard letting go. | I always end up thinking on the lines of... if i work my ass off now, I'll have a much easier life later. I want to travel, I want to see the world, but I know later in life you start settling down, its hard to just get up and go. Confusion sets in right about here in the thought process. So, give me words of inspiration and wisdom.  Ali Ali Watters Post Count: 3865 Msg: #2 136 days ago, July 3rd 2009 | Life doesn't get any easier- and it will get harder to let go the longer you stay in one place. | The things you own end up owning you. If travel adventure and freedom is something you really want in your life - make it happen as soon as possible - and like stepping through the wardrobe you'll find it harder and harder to go back :) Good luck with your decision Juggy Bonus points for anyone spotting and naming the movie references ;)  AnnaAdventuring Anna Louise Post Count: 115 Msg: #3 136 days ago, July 3rd 2009 | The things you own end up owning you - Fight Club | Stepping through the wardrobe - gotta be Narnia! Any others?  Mell Mell Post Count: 13894 Msg: #4 135 days ago, July 4th 2009 | Hello Juggy :) | I am considered to be a free spirit by many. I have and do generally live my life the way I want, within a few self imposed limits for reasons of health and safety. If there is one thing that has prevented me from fully enjoying my decisions it is paying a bit too much attention to the opinions of those who are not free spirts. They have a tendeny to predict consequences and list them for me in an attempt to make me ''settle down and be sensible''. One of the great things about being older is realising from experience that most things work out one way or another, so very few things are worth worrying about. Some things worked out even better than I hoped they would.  I always end up thinking on the lines of... if i work my ass off now, I'll have a much easier life later. Create a balance between work and all the other things you want to do . Dont wait until you are old. Balance your life now and when you are old too. The world is a changing thing, and seeing change over the decades is fascinating. You will miss out on this aspect of travel if you only do it when you are old. Confusion sets in right about here in the thought process.Maybe having further thoughts on this makes you feel hopeless because there seems to be too much against taking the next step to being a free spirit and maybe taking that step would be a bit scary, and then you feel confused because being a free spirit is something you want? I remember feeling like that a couple of times before I took the big step and did what I really wanted to do. I was 19 I wanted to travel around Europe with my ex. I even asked him if I could come too, and he said I could. Then I just felt confused because shouldnt I use my savings for university stuff. I would be a really impoverished student if I didnt. I was having a gap year before going to university at the time. I told my ex, I wouldnt be travelling with him afterall. He said I should think about it some more before making a decision for sure. This just make me feel totally confused. One minute I would be thinking of the joys of travelling and then next I would be thinking about what I thought were the consequences. I can remember the exact moment I made the decision to travel. I dont think I will ever forget it. My job at the time was to deliver flight ticket to business people around the city. I hopped on and off busses and tube trains and in and out of hotels and offices delivering the tickets and mulling over the 'should I travel with my ex' question. I was on the top deck of one of those red London busses when I decided that there would be no end to the thinking and I should make my decision now. I wanted to travel, so I decided right then that I would do it, no matter what other fears and doubts entered my head. I ran down the bus stairs 3 at a time, and got off at the next stop to phone my ex and tell him that I am going to travel with him. We then decided to travel around Ireland first so he could meet my parents. The next bout of confusion came, when my parents did not want me to travel and expecially not with a guy I met in London and had been in a relationship with for less than 6 months. My parents threatened to not pay for me to go to university if I travelled with that guy. Then followed a couple of days of confusion, before I made the decision to not allow my parents to manipulate me like this. I knew the Narnia one, so 1 bonus point for me. :) Mel [Edited: 18:59 - Mell ] Kerfuffle Juggy Post Count: 47 Msg: #5 135 days ago, July 4th 2009 | That is the way I feel, in limbo between what I "should" do... or what i want to do. I'm going to be going to go to Vancouver end of August. | I went to Italy for a couple days last summer and really liked it. But it didn't feel like what I thought it would, maybe it was the company I was with... I'm definitely going to try again... Uni is almost done... Have a low stress and flexible job. Everything seems lined up, but still feeling doubt. Mell Mell Post Count: 13894 Msg: #6 134 days ago, July 5th 2009 | I dont know about you, but I start feeling depressed if I make a decision to not do what I want with my life. It is as if my feelings wont stop nagging me to be true to myself whenever I venture off that path. This usually prompts me to reconsider my decision, depite the confusion and fear that brings up. I dont know if these feelings are so strong for everybody or if others can shut them out more easily. I think what pushes me past the confusion stage to make a decision to do what I really want is that it would actually hurt to know that I am not doing what I want and trying to get what I want. | Mell Mell Post Count: 13894 Msg: #7 134 days ago, July 5th 2009 | But it didn't feel like what I thought it would,......In what ways did it feel different from how you thought it would? system TravelBlog System User Post Count: 921 Msg: #8 133 days ago, July 6th 2009 | 2 posts moved to this new topic: Travelling | Mell Mell Post Count: 13894 Msg: #9 129 days ago, July 10th 2009 | The things you own end up owning you.I find that the real problem with having stuff is that when you have it you have to look after it. That takes away freedom to vaying degrees. One thing that prompted me to have less stuff is the nuisance it causes that takes away my freedom. The nuisance involves having parts of things replaced, getting money back when things do not work, keeping them in good condition, preventing them from being stolen.... Kerfuffle Juggy Post Count: 47 Msg: #10 129 days ago, July 10th 2009 | Thats true, sometimes I decide not to buy something just for the fact that I know i'll break it. | Number of Users: 5 | Number of Posts: 10 | ||||||||||||||||||||
