It's a question I have been asking myself the last few days and it isn't the first time. And it always arises when I am tired of the travelling, weary of the constant moving and drained by the constant stream of new impressions. The only difference is that normally I am able to travel for much longer before getting this feeling. I have only been away for three month and I am ready to go back to Europe, which to my luck I will also be doing very shortly. But why have I tired so quickly? Perhaps this is a more profound question. Is it my age? Or is it something else?
I have concluded it is partly because I have been travelling faster than usual, not only on this trip but on the last two trips and thus I am more weary at the end of them. Another reason I think has been the fact that I am travelling alone for prolonged periods of time, which nice as it can be at times also can drain you. It is nice to meet people and travel with them for a while, because it makes things easier. You have somebody to
talk to, complain to and to take the load of always doing the bargaining and everything else that comes with the travelling. When you are with two or more you can take turns and it helps.
As for why I bother travelling? I do ask myself this question and than I think about it and I know the answer. Firstly while I am very ready to go home now and all I can think about is going home, at the same time as I think about how nice it will be to go home I am already making plans for my next trip. I haven't even finished this one and I am thinking about what to do next and how to do it!! And not just that, I look further forward, as far as five years ahead. And this I do so often it drives me crazy at times. It's a strange duality, at the moment I am loathing the travelling, but I am still thinking about my next trip. It's like with going on and off the beaten track. When I am of it, all I can think about is getting back on it and meeting the travelers,
when I am on it, all I can think about is getting of it and losing those same travelers!! I often wonder if I am the only one who feels like this. I can't imagine a world in which I wouldn't or couldn't travel, and yet after just a few months on the road I just want to go home and do nothing. Where were the days that I could manage for a year without having this feeling? I guess, it is because of the location. There are few hostels here and so there is not as much chance or ease to meet fellow travelers as in Europe or Australia or S. America. Here you spend your nights in your own hotel room and to meet others you need to go to a popular restaurant or bar and put an effort into it. With my budget constraints I have not been doing much of going to traveler haunts, or bars, and so I am meeting fewer travelers and this seems to be taking its toll in the length of my travels.
So last night as I was contemplating this question and all the pros and cons, I looked at
what I did since my last blog and I knew again why I loved the travelling so much. In the last ten or so days I have managed to finally get to see a one horned rhino, getting an adrenaline rush in the process; as after I took my photo I noticed that both my guides and Andy and Halley (with whom I was doing the jungle walk) were making a run for it. At that moment I remembered our guides words to us before we started off: "don't take a photo of the rhino if we come to close to it, just run!" And we were close! And I took a photo instead of running!! But run I did after that snap... And I survived it, because the rhino didn't charge.
I enjoyed the carnavalesque experience of the elephant safari, with about twenty other elephants, each with four tourists on it encircling the rhino's so we could get a good shot. It was more like being in a zoo!
I remembered the silence of Daman, a village from which to soak in views of the Himalayas. I didn't see them, but the village itself was so peaceful it was
Chitwan National ParkThe fateful rhino incident... This it the best shot I could get before making a dash for it...
incredible. On a side note, my parents did manage to see the Himalayas from Daman back in 1969... It must be true what they say about everything being better in the past... Even the views!
I recalled the funky guesthouse I stayed at in Dhulikhel and the lovely walk I had in the surrounding hills.
I thought about the morning breakfasts on one of Bhaktipur's squares and seeing the locals perform their puja at the different idols scattered around the square, not skipping even the measliest, tiniest shrine, often no more than a corner stone or a slight inundation in a road with a small bell and something that is supposed to resemble one or another of the gods.
The jokes and fun I had with the street kids in Bhaktapur after they understood I wasn't going to give them sweets/bonbons/chocolates/schoolpens/schoolbooks/shampoo or rupees, came back to me. And how the initial crowd of them protected me against the further onslaught of more street kids, telling them to back off, even thought they were also just curious who this strange blond haired freak was who was having such fun with the others. And I remembered the other travelers I met and
travelled with, even if it was short, and the locals I talked with and who invited me for dinner or a tea.
Finally the beauty of Patan and its Durbar square came back to me, the exquisite temples and the fine carvings.
I thought about it all and how this all happened in such a short period of time, how it would have been impossible for me to experience all this if I didn't do what I did. And this is one of the reasons I love travelling.
So I have concluded that I travel because I love going home, it has made me appreciate home and my loved ones more. I travel because I love the excitement of leaving home again, the trepidation of a new adventure waiting to happen, meeting new people, experiencing a new culture and just heading into the unknown. I travel because I love meeting other travelers and locals and exchanging experiences or stories. I travel because I love being alone, having an empty beach, an ancient ruin or a mountain vista all to myself. I fear I have become like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. It must be the clinical trials! My next
one should definitely be for Schizophrenia!
But it actually all boils down to this. I travel because it makes me immensely happy. I am living my dream, not many people can say the same. And so I plod on and right now I am at the stage of loving and longing to go home, if only for a short while. It is just another part of travelling.
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Hi Ralfie, just wanted to say that your photos as usual are great. Pity you didn't get a better picture of the rhino ... I personally think you should have hung around a little longer!! And I also commiserate on your musings on the pros and cons of travelling .. my heart bleeds for you!
Your favourite sister
... i think its time for the ashram
Hey!!!, we spent about 5 months in SE Asia and, the last few weeks I was dying to go home: sleep in MY bed, eat food knowing that I will like it, talking to my friends... but one of the first things I did when we arrived was to grab a map and start thinking about the next trip... so you're NOT alone...
Deni
ha Ralf,
Nou wat ik begreep ga je eerst naar je zus. Nou daar wordt je heerlijk in de watten gelegd. En dan kom je thuis. Nou je ouders hebben voor jou een heerlijke relaxstoel gekocht, (het gras is wel meters hoog) de kersterren die ik heeeeel goed verzorgd heb moeten nog begraven worden. O ja en het zwembad, nou je mams verheugd zich op je komst. Nooit zo'n helder bad gehad sinds jij er was. Dus kortom een hele goede reden om naar huis te komen. O ja en pa is de computer aan het blokkeren zodat je vanaf heden alleen met muntjes online kunt. Kortom feest in Gaanderen. Er is veel veranderd. Maar ik ben er ook nog om de feestvreugde te vergroten en wie weet begeleiden wij onze schrijver wel naar Engeland
Veel plezier nog bij Linn en haar gezin en tot gauw.
Liefs Willy
I know exactly what you mean. You know, right before I met you guys at paradiso - i was in a similar boat and longing for home. Some of us just have nomadic souls. The key is, i think, - when you feel like that - you have to find a way to make a small slice of home whereever you are.
lots of love from america!!!
j
Hi, I found your blog interesting. I have done a tonne of travel (including to Chitwan!) in the form of three roughly year long trips. At times, I get tired too, especially in "tough" travel places such as India or Africa, and wonder what I am doing. However, I just arrived home in February after an 18 month stint and I am back working and, let me tell you, there isn't a day that goes by when I don't wonder what I was doing this time last year as I drag myself out of bed in the early morning to shower and get ready for work, having to put on nice clothes and even make-up - shock! All of that material goods and responsibility stuff really just catches back up with you and you end up longing for the simple days when all you need is a backpack and a Lonely Planet! Clothes wrinkled and faded? Who cares?! Make the most of the travel life while it still lasts, is my advice! ;)
Great stuff, and sounds exactly like my thoughts a few months ago. It's certainly not only you who feels like that:)
It's comforting to know that you go through the same musings I do when I travel. And here I was wondering if maybe I wasn't cut out for the traveling lifestyle since now all I want is a home to go back to. I enjoy reading your stories!
Thanks for all the nice comments and to let you all know, especially those of you who are fearing that I will give up my nomadic lifestyle, not to worry, I shall travel until the end of my days. I shall also, I am sure, at times feel like it is enough. But I can not and will not give up my travelling. It would make me deeply unhappy if I did. I travel, therefore I am!
I think everybody gets that feeling. It is why I assigned travel to one corner of my life, instead of dovoting all my life to it, despite how much I love it. It is a case of too much of a good thing is bad. I am currently having that feeling about child care. I suppose everybody has too much of something and too little of something else. :)
I understand this....you do travel hard and I know what it's like to feel lonely. I'm a planner too!
and, btw, NICE photo of the peacock
So, I can see that you have reached the last stage in the identity life-cyckle which arguably could look like:
Tourist - Backpacker - Individual traveller - Pilgrim
You are not an individual traveller anymore, but have attained your inner equilibrium. You do not differentiate between home and being abroad, since both are genuine parts of your travel. So, you are a pilgrim. That's nice and only something that few people get to experience.
For your outmost benefit, read this profile and text as it is intrinsic to your situation and feelings:
http://members.virtualtourist.com/m/875b1/
This will perhaps help you with, and support, your epistemic, inner journey.
Best wishes,
Anders Madsen Pedersen
Denmark
Hi Ralf
Im at Varanasi, and since 1 year ago I keep looking your beautiful pictures
I just have curiosity about you
If you are in India or near Varanasi, let me know about you
As a shanti friend, as a observer
Take Care
Mahade
I read ur entry, and i must say, its a beautiful piece of writing. Not only because of grammar or writing style but because you have spoken from ur heart. I have tried travelling alone, and though i like it, sometimes it gets very boring and lonely. But again that zeal to travel, to see new places, to meet new ppl come back to u n u keep moving.
At least u r living ur dream.
I am from India, n I hav just started experimenting...n I want to roam the world too...the prob is i am too short of funds
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DamanMy guesthouse in Daman...
DhulikhelViews from the hills around Dhulikhel on a clear day...
PanautiIndreshwar Mahadev Temple in Panauti
PanautiUnamanta Bhairab Temple, with three figures peaking from the windows...
BhaktapurFine woodwork on 55 window palace...
Part of trip:
The great journey east!
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Hi Ralfie, just wanted to say that your photos as usual are great. Pity you didn't get a better picture of the rhino ... I personally think you should have hung around a little longer!! And I also commiserate on your musings on the pros and cons of travelling .. my heart bleeds for you!
Your favourite sister
... i think its time for the ashram
Hey!!!, we spent about 5 months in SE Asia and, the last few weeks I was dying to go home: sleep in MY bed, eat food knowing that I will like it, talking to my friends... but one of the first things I did when we arrived was to grab a map and start thinking about the next trip... so you're NOT alone...
Deni
ha Ralf,
Nou wat ik begreep ga je eerst naar je zus. Nou daar wordt je heerlijk in de watten gelegd. En dan kom je thuis. Nou je ouders hebben voor jou een heerlijke relaxstoel gekocht, (het gras is wel meters hoog) de kersterren die ik heeeeel goed verzorgd heb moeten nog begraven worden. O ja en het zwembad, nou je mams verheugd zich op je komst. Nooit zo'n helder bad gehad sinds jij er was. Dus kortom een hele goede reden om naar huis te komen. O ja en pa is de computer aan het blokkeren zodat je vanaf heden alleen met muntjes online kunt. Kortom feest in Gaanderen. Er is veel veranderd. Maar ik ben er ook nog om de feestvreugde te vergroten en wie weet begeleiden wij onze schrijver wel naar Engeland
Veel plezier nog bij Linn en haar gezin en tot gauw.
Liefs Willy
I know exactly what you mean. You know, right before I met you guys at paradiso - i was in a similar boat and longing for home. Some of us just have nomadic souls. The key is, i think, - when you feel like that - you have to find a way to make a small slice of home whereever you are.
lots of love from america!!!
j
Hi, I found your blog interesting. I have done a tonne of travel (including to Chitwan!) in the form of three roughly year long trips. At times, I get tired too, especially in "tough" travel places such as India or Africa, and wonder what I am doing. However, I just arrived home in February after an 18 month stint and I am back working and, let me tell you, there isn't a day that goes by when I don't wonder what I was doing this time last year as I drag myself out of bed in the early morning to shower and get ready for work, having to put on nice clothes and even make-up - shock! All of that material goods and responsibility stuff really just catches back up with you and you end up longing for the simple days when all you need is a backpack and a Lonely Planet! Clothes wrinkled and faded? Who cares?! Make the most of the travel life while it still lasts, is my advice! ;)
Great stuff, and sounds exactly like my thoughts a few months ago. It's certainly not only you who feels like that:)
It's comforting to know that you go through the same musings I do when I travel. And here I was wondering if maybe I wasn't cut out for the traveling lifestyle since now all I want is a home to go back to. I enjoy reading your stories!
Thanks for all the nice comments and to let you all know, especially those of you who are fearing that I will give up my nomadic lifestyle, not to worry, I shall travel until the end of my days. I shall also, I am sure, at times feel like it is enough. But I can not and will not give up my travelling. It would make me deeply unhappy if I did. I travel, therefore I am!
I think everybody gets that feeling. It is why I assigned travel to one corner of my life, instead of dovoting all my life to it, despite how much I love it. It is a case of too much of a good thing is bad. I am currently having that feeling about child care. I suppose everybody has too much of something and too little of something else. :)
I understand this....you do travel hard and I know what it's like to feel lonely. I'm a planner too!
and, btw, NICE photo of the peacock
So, I can see that you have reached the last stage in the identity life-cyckle which arguably could look like:
Tourist - Backpacker - Individual traveller - Pilgrim
You are not an individual traveller anymore, but have attained your inner equilibrium. You do not differentiate between home and being abroad, since both are genuine parts of your travel. So, you are a pilgrim. That's nice and only something that few people get to experience.
For your outmost benefit, read this profile and text as it is intrinsic to your situation and feelings:
http://members.virtualtourist.com/m/875b1/
This will perhaps help you with, and support, your epistemic, inner journey.
Best wishes,
Anders Madsen Pedersen
Denmark
Hi Ralf
Im at Varanasi, and since 1 year ago I keep looking your beautiful pictures
I just have curiosity about you
If you are in India or near Varanasi, let me know about you
As a shanti friend, as a observer
Take Care
Mahade
I read ur entry, and i must say, its a beautiful piece of writing. Not only because of grammar or writing style but because you have spoken from ur heart. I have tried travelling alone, and though i like it, sometimes it gets very boring and lonely. But again that zeal to travel, to see new places, to meet new ppl come back to u n u keep moving.
At least u r living ur dream.
I am from India, n I hav just started experimenting...n I want to roam the world too...the prob is i am too short of funds
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